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writes:I have been with my fiance now for 5 years we just recently got engaged, I understand I am really young, I am almost 21; but I am really mature. I go to college full time, work part time, and I have had a struggling past through growing up. My fiance helped me through my sturggles, but now after 5 years and avoiding me for a week he says he needs a break. We share an apartment, and I cant afford the bills on my own. Is the relationship over? I am so confused what to do, becuase he really isnt explaining why he wants a break. The only thing he said is he needs me to be independent. I am really independent I feel, its just I struggle to find friends, but I am trying. What should I do? How should I respect him wanting space, when we still need to live together?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): Finding out who you are without depending on any relationship to 'complete' you is definitely the best thing that can ever happen to you. When people are under stress, they are often snappy and irritable, and not the best company to be around. If you find yourself like this, do take yourself out of the stressful situation and chill. Your fiance will be attracted to the old you. Have you changed under your stress? Put some fun in your life, learn to chill and relax, and you might find him coming back willingly. If he doesn't, move on, but there is only one person you can ever rely on in life, and that is you, so never lie to yourself, and learn to like who you are. If there are aspects of you that you don't like, then change them. By liking who you are you will become confident and sexy to a lot of guys, but more importantly, you will find happiness in you that no one else can take away.
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reader, Isa123 +, writes (21 April 2010):
 Five years is a serious amount. You both have a life together in the future: marriage, house, kids.A break isn't a break up, but my best assumption is that he wants you to manage without him. You two are getting married soon. So it means that anything you want to get out of the way during your "single life", should be taken care of right now.Maybe your fiance also has personal issues of his own that he wants to deal with.It's all about personal matters.Don't worry sweetie. Just let him know you love him.Good luck.
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