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18-21,
Erosina
writes:I have a sneaking suspicion that my teacher is attracted to me. I'm 18 and he's 26. I feel like he sometimes makes roundabout attempts to single me out when asking a question or discussing something during class. He's always so interested in what I have to say. (Then again, maybe it's because I'm the best in the class.) Some days, when he's speaking to the class, it seems like he either makes a point to look at me or tries not to look at me.Whenever I see him in hallways or somewhere else, I feel like he says random things or comments on random things just to make conversation. I ran into him in the campus post office and he commented on the design of mailboxes, then on the room itself. He showed me one of the walls, which was tiled in contrast to the rest of the room, and told me how the room used to be a swimming pool. He just says things like that out of the blue around me. I've gone over that encounter in my mind many times and I think I definitely picked up some vibes. I'm attracted to him, but I don't think it could go anywhere. He has a daughter, who's a year old. I'm nowhere near ready for kids, and I wouldn't date a guy who has one. But I'm really fond of him, I enjoy talking to him, and we seem to have many things in common. If he's attracted to me, should I give it a chance once he's not my teacher anymore?
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reader, Giles  +, writes (23 November 2007):
I think you must ask yourself if you're not projecting feelings onto him, imagining things that aren't really there. He seems to have a valid excuse every time he chats to you. I'm not saying this is the case but the possibility is there. Maybe he is casually chatting to a student, but youre seeing a dirty old man, for whatever reason (Im not going to ask you about your childhood or your relationship with your parents). After all, you DID admit that you are attracted to him... Another possibility is that he is actually attracted to you. No harm in that. We naturally want to socialise with our favourites and those we're attracted to. At least he isn't acting on any impulses. That at least shows he has character and scruples for his work.Just think about it before you make accusations.
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reader, Erosina +, writes (22 November 2007):
Erosina is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your reply. And no, he isn't married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): i wouldn't bother with him. honestly, it wont last and he has a child. you don't even know if he is married? or do you? anyways, it can cost his job, and as long as you attend the college that he teaches at it will risk his job even if you are his student or not. also, you are young; this crush will only lead to issues and drama, and you are young for that. if anything it can affect your education. he has a child, he can be married, and he teaches at your school. it is too much right now. i wouldn't do it if i were you. hope this helps!Anila
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