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writes:Iv just met this man, he's 35 and he's very nice. We clicked straight away and he's very keen on me. He emails me and phones me everyday and always wanting to seeing me....i like his interest in me but im a bit wary on how keen he is because iv heard that a guy who is all over you at the beginning tends to cool off pretty quickly afterwards, do you think thats true? Im playing it cool because i dont want to get hurt, or should i just go with the flow? Reply to this Question |
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reader, troubledtoomuch  + ♥, writes (28 June 2008):
 I suppose that can happen. I met a woman 6 months after my divorce from my first wife at the age of 34. She was the first woman who I dated after my divorce and I wanted to see her as much as I could. I took her out to nice restaurants and to things like a couple would go to, like hockey games and camping. I'll let you know if it ever slows down, as we are still going strong after 29 years.
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reader, DiovanLestat + ♥, writes (28 June 2008):
 Thanks Guillaume, you learn something new every day... :0
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reader, guillaume + ♥, writes (28 June 2008):
 Hi,
I've heard of this. There is what you call a novelty value. It sort of goes so fast, furious, fun etc that when it slows down, the guy or the girl will want out. Sometimes it's the speed of things that cause a guy to want out. The problem is the excitement and speed at the start and everything tends to get done (dinner, theatre, sex, gifts) and there is nothing left to look forward to or discover.
Best to do what you are doing and play it cool! G xx
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reader, DiovanLestat + ♥, writes (28 June 2008):
Never heard of this type of behaviour myself. The only type of man that hurrys to tell a woman he loves her before he knows her is somebody that is emotionally unstable and thus should be dumped as fast as possible. As long as your not sleeping with him, whats the problem with a man telling you he likes you and trying to impress you with dinner dates and gifts. I don't know who your talking too, but as I said, I think they give out strange advice. Follow this type of logic, and you'll only want to date men who are abusers, who treat you mean and never tell you they care, is this the type of man you prefer instead?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut isn't it true that some men get very keen on a woman...wine and dine them, tell them quite quickly that they love you, then drop you like a red hot brick? Because they rush in too soon?
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reader, DiovanLestat + ♥, writes (28 June 2008):
I'm glad you've come here, you are in the right place. Forget about this advice given by women who probably hate men. It is now the 21st century, women have changed, men have changed. It is now possible to show your feelings even when your a man. He contacts you every day, that probably show he cares. He may hurt you, he may not. This we cannot know. Life is about chances, you make your decision and take a gamble, who knows what the future may bring.
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