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*diegoose
writes:I would firstly like to say, i promise that the love for my teacher isn't relationship love nor sexual love, just admiring love, like one would have for a close friend, or even family.We are both women, my teacher and I, and i think i love her like a second mother.I think about her all the time and i was wondering if this was okay? If anybody feels the same?I guess you could say we are close... we bake each other treats and very occasionally have a chat on our own. She seems to tell me everything, maybe even stuff she shouldn't.My question really is, is it okay to love her like i do?Is it creepy, and does anybody feel the same about a teacher?One day, i hope to tell her how important she is, i just don't know what to say.
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reader, BrookiePecks  +, writes (15 October 2016):
Yes it is normal I admire my teacher very much. I know I'm stuck to what to say too
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): I'm going to through the same thing with one of my teachers at the moment. she's really nice, and treats all her students like friends, rather than students and we call her bec rather than by her last name. i often question if its right to love her the way i do, because teachers are supposed to keep their distance from students, but she's really special to me and i don't think i could get rid of my obsession with her even if i really tried. so i'm not trying. i'm leaving things the way they are. if she doesn't want to be my friend, then she'll tell me when i try and catch up with her for coffee when i leave school. ily bec :P
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reader, invisiblecupid  +, writes (27 March 2011):
 Hi, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I am feeling the same way about my biology teacher. She helped me out a lot, supported me with positive encouragements, and hugged me whenever i needed it. I told her that I thought of her as a second mother, and called her "mommy". She also called me "darling", which i never heard her call anyone else by this except for her daughter and me. Therefore, you should absolutely tell her how you feel about her. What I said to my teacher was "you are the best teacher i've ever met in my entire high school career. I also admire you like a second mother because you not only taught me the science of life, but the lessons of life as well" (since she is a biology teacher). Now that I've told her, I feel so much better, and I'm sure I will maintain this feelings for her even after I graduate from high school.It is not creepy at all. In fact, teachers are supposed to play the role of second parents or a mentor. So, good luck :)
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reader, Ediegoose +, writes (27 February 2011):
Ediegoose is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks ultraviolet2011
Your advice is very helpful, i did talk to her and she is totally fine with me being close to my teacher, our ages are close i am 15, and my teacher is 23 and i think we have a strong friendship. She doesn't have any kids and lives on her own just 10 mins away so i think that we could be friends in the future. Hopefully.
She is a lovely person.
My mum likes that i have a role model other than herself because i don't see much of her.
Thanks again
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011): Glad I was some help, I think you should explain the situation to your mum, she may be the one you need to turn to and it could help deepen your relationship. My mother passed away recently and there are so many things i wished I had shared with her, she may have been my lifesaver. If you are close, talk to her, if not then maybe you should explain the whole thing to your teacher. Share the problem with the people involved but try mum first. Let us know how you go. Keep positive
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reader, Ediegoose +, writes (25 February 2011):
Ediegoose is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers ultraviolet2011 and Lele0515
They are very helpful, i guess you could say i have lost my mother figure recently as i no longer live with her, but i do love my mum more than anything in the world, i can't replace her with a teacher, its just my teacher is quite important to me i guess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): I went through the same thing when I was your age, its tough to know what to do but be careful because although its not love the way you feel in a relationship you can still get hurt. You are obviously missing something in your own life, maybe your relationship with your mother isn't perfect and the attention you are recieving feels great but its a dangerous situation for you and her. I had feelings for a female teacher for a few years but life moves you in different directions and it will naturally change. Try not to let her be your main focus in life, focus on something healthier. Be careful
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reader, Lele0515 +, writes (25 February 2011):
You guys seemed to have grown a strong bond, which is normal. I had two close teachers in my entire life one even gave me disney tickets ! :) but don't worry it's normal as long as you know nothing sexual and stuff teachers cant do with students. So don't stress it(:
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