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writes:Is it fair to say someone never loved you just because they hurt u. I have recently come out of a two year relationship where I thought we loved each other. I am now questioning if he cared for me at all. Looking back over his past behaviour I can see now he was not the man I thought he was. But I did feel as though he loved me. Was I just fooling my self or did he love me and was not ready for it. I'm starting to question my judgement totally Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2012): "Was I just fooling my self or did he love me and was not ready for it."Neither. He was fooling you. Guys will tell girls whatever they want to hear so girls will do whatever guys want them to do. "But I did feel as though he loved me. I am now questioning if he cared for me at all."Exactly my point. If you felt as though he didn't love you and was just using you, you would started questioning if he cared for you all a lot sooner and he wouldn't have been able to get away with using you for as long as he did. "Looking back over his past behaviour I can see now he was not the man I thought he was."Exactly my point. Girls always listen to what guys say, never pay attention to what guys actually do until too late. That's why guys will tell girls whatever they want to hear, if guys told girls what guys were actually doing, guys would never get away with anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2012): You were together two years, I don't think many people can maintain a relationship without having feelings, thats what attraction is all about.
Yes feelings fade and things go wrong, thats when we know it wasn't meant to be long-term.
Accept it's done now, don't worry about the whys n wherefores, move on and in time you will meet a lasting love.
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reader, cats +, writes (18 February 2012):
cats is verified as being by the original poster of the question Tanks I no your right I need to stop over thinkin all of it, its just my nature. I just wonder if half the time people find it hard to let go of someone is that they can't except dat dey were wrong. U know lik its moRe an ego thing. Tanks again
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reader, bardia  +, writes (18 February 2012):
 Sadly, it could be either. I was in a similar situation until recently. I believe he loved me in some way, but not like I needed or wanted or expected from a romantic relationship. It was more a relationship to fill the bored lonely void he had. Don't doubt your judgment. He may have cared deeply for you, but just not have been ready to fully step in & commit to you. Don't try to over think it. It'll drive you crazy. Move forward, one step at a time...
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