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writes: Hello, i have been with my b/f for 1 yr. we do argue but not often. i'm starting to feel that he is losing interest in me as he seems a little different and sometimes he will cause an argument if i don't feel like having sex. What do you suggest is the problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You for that answer. it does help when you ask for another persons opinion and help. i will try what you have said and see how things go
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): first, you might want to think abt whether your timing is just off. like maybe you'd be more up for sex in the morning or afternoon, when he always wants it at night. if you suggest it in the morning sometimes, he'd probably love that.
second, you might talk to your dr to see if she has any suggestions. some birth control pills are known to inhibit interest in sex bc they suppress a woman's natural amt of testosterone.
third, consider how generally healthy you are. your interest in sex will be reduced if you're not living an active and healthy lifestyle--getting enough exercise, sleep, eating well, etc.
fourth, talk to your bf about ways he can help you to *get* in the mood. and remember that you don't have to *start out* feeling as interested in it as he does. you just have to be open to being primed for it, and he should be open to helping you by doing some foreplay. maybe that's part of what's missing. talk to him abt this at a time when sex is NOT on your minds, tho, b/c otherwise, it could cause tensions.
finally, as a general matter, i'll note that your bf may be generally insecure abt the relationship 'losing its spark'. that kind of thing often happens as relationships mature and change, and it can be scary. you may want to look for other clues to see whether this might be the case, and think about whether you can reassure him that you're still attracted to him, that you still care about pleasuring him and meeting his sexual needs, etc. much in the same way that you probably want him to reassure you that he still wants to just watch a movie with you, and hear all abt your day, etc, that he still thinks you're pretty, etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to add to this.. my bf and me do have sex usually at least once a week.. but yet he still goes in a huff i'm tired and don't want to. he usually replies with "so it's just once a week now then a normal relationship people have sex more than that". i don't know what to do. i love him so much and don't want to loos him to some 1 else due to the sex!!
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP
i need some advice. how can i keep him interested in me
can you suggest anything to help me feel aroused more rather than rarely!!
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