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writes:so im 21 and new to dating ... im not entirely sure if i want a relationship right now, or whether im just craving meeting new people/ making new friends... basically, my question is for those who have been in my situation, and have started dating late, but who also enjoyed the single life...when you started dating someone- did you know right away that you wanted them to be your bf/gf or werent you in a rush to classify them as that?basically, ive been dating this guy non-exclusively for 2 months... he is a really great guy, but i cant see myself calling him my bf... im wondering if this is a sign that im not into him in that way, or whether its because its new to me? (would i be ready if i met the right guy?)* let me know if i need to clarify; not sure if i make sense Reply to this Question
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reader, Cotton223  +, writes (17 January 2011):
 i know what you mean im 23 and started dating about 2 yrs ago. as far as knowing right of the bat if i wanted someone to be my gf has only happened once. i felt a really strong connection with a girl and persued her...sadly things didnt work out. in your situation if you have been seeing this guy for 2 months you should know him pretty well by now and if you still dont see yourself being in an exclusive relationship maybe he is not the one for you. although if you enjoy his company keep him as a friend who knows he might have some handsome friends. keep putting yourself out there and your bound to meet someone cause dating is a numbers game to a certain extent. good luck and hope you find what your looking for.
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reader, foolishsage +, writes (17 January 2011):
 It has nothing to do with how new you are to it. Don't be in a rush - you started dating late, but that's ok - you appear to be mature and responsible about it.I am personally a believer in meeting many new friends to help you decide what personality traits and mannerisms you need and want from someone else in a relationship.Non-exclusive guy for 2 months is fine, so long as he's not really wanting to have a silly label like "boyfriend", I see no problem with you still dating him and meeting other new friends. Don't ever lie about it - be very honest about it, but I personally think that there is no better teacher than experience and who knows - maybe after seeing several other guys, you may even like the one that you've seen for the past couple months even more than you do now.Best of luck - be honest - have fun!
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