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writes: Hi! I'm 22, and I've fallen madly in love with a 15 year old girl. I live on a farm where we rent stables, and the girl in question keeps her horse on the stableyard. Whenever I'm walking around the yard she always looks at me, so I think that the feeling is mutual. I don't know what to do. I'd really like to go out with her in the end, as I've never felt like this about anyone before. She's perfect! Or am I just being an idiot? Please help! Reply to this Question |
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reader, Smexi-amii  +, writes (14 August 2008):
Do not let age get in the way!!
Last year i met my present boyfriend he was 22 and i was 15, we were both scared to let each other know how we felt because of the age gap but when i turned 16 (months after we met) he asked me out and we have been going out ever since and the age gap has now dissapered we never really think about it.
Do what your hearts telling you to do xx
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reader, melmsscr  +, writes (30 April 2008):
im currentally 15 and im with a 22 year old && have been with him for a year and a half, if you really have strong feelings for this girl then go for her, it may be one of the best choices you'll ever make in your life. just be careful
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): hi i am a danielle i m 15 u shouldtell her how u feel but i would wait till she is a bit older.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Hi I think you should talk to this girl. I am a 14 year old and I'm in love with a 26 year old. When you really love her...You should really talk to her. You are definitely NOT an idiot. I think if she returns your feelings than you should wait until she is 18. I hope this works out for you! :)Love a caring friend.
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reader, karenina +, writes (18 February 2008):
How dare some of you people call this guy an idiot. Who are you to judge whether it is love or infatuation, he knows his own heart and he knows he's in love so shut up. I'm sorry but i hate it when people say you can't be in love with this person she/he is too young, well age doesn't matter. They aren't having sex so it isnt illegal. If you have fallen madly in love witth this girl then my advice to you would be to tell her how you feel and if she feels the same way back you should not start dating until she is 18 years old, at least then she'll be an adult and you won't get the horrible comments about dating a child. And im sorry, for the person who told you that you should be ashamed of yourself, **** off because you have absolutely no right to say something like that. We are all human beings who all fall in love, we might not have wanted to fall in love with said person but sometimes there is nothing you can do. I know from personal experience. When i was 16 years old a close family friend, a 26 year old man told me he was in love with me.. some of you might find it sick or disturbed but we were truly in love. We never had sex once but new we were in love, and some people say they don't beleieve in love at first sight but we sure did, anyway my parents found out and his family found out and a few of his friends and we never saw eachother again.. we had also been dating in secret for about 3 years. He died and iv never truly forgiven my parents for not allowing me to see him. I still love him and will always love him. But anyway i just want you to know that if you love this 15 year old girl, the age gap isnt as much as what mine and his was, if ur worried about tht, so go for it and do not listen to the cold hearted people posting messages on this site about the fact that you should grow up and act ur age, because there is nothin wrong with the way u r feeling. And if u do get together with her promise me u will not let anyone break u two apart because the man i was in love with died and i never got to spend my life with him in the way i had always hoped i would.
Hope this helped
Anna
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): I'm in a situation somewhat similar. I'm in love with a 15 year old, I'm 28. The worst part is that I'm dating her 23 year old sister. I've had feelings for the younger sister because believe it or not we have a lot in common. She likes my company because we can talk about anything and we have fun together. We have the same hobbies... I wish with all my heart that she was older. It feels like life is playing a cruel joke on me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2007): Hay I’m a 14-year-old stable girl, and I have a crush on a 34y/o farmer.Go for it, if I was her I would go out with you (if I had a crush on you)I hate the fact that people think that you have got to be round the same age. Make her laugh or something, chat about horses.Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): Your not being an idiot.15 year olds are just like people your own age, the only difference is that there bodies are still growing up.I am 15, and have been attracted to lads of your age, lol, its natural. But some people only believe love is when two people of similar ages and have a lot in common. I belive you should get to know this young woman and see how you feel when you get to know her, if you can be yourself and enjoy her comapany and love everything about her, then if she feels the same way then you should give it a shot, you never know, you could die in her arms, old an wrinkly, lol, i have had relationships+ with older lads, n belive me, i havent regreted any of them. well, goodluck, n hope for the best, and if you do give it a shot, n she doesnt like you, dont be gutted, like you said, th efeelings could be mutual, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): thats ok as long as you dont have sex you will be guilty of an offence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2007): oh my godd.... is this site american? because here in england, you're not even allowed to be engaged at the age of 15! im 15..from england as u might of guessed. the girl might be good looking but you dont know her at all by the sounds of things, and she might end up being a right cow anyway, just because she looks nice doesn't mean everything! your age gap is abit wrong too, you need to find someone your own age, shes still a kid and your an adult; which doesn't seem too good. i'd love a horse, alwayz wanted one, so just wanna say your so lucky to be able to live on a farm! lol. well..see u.. have a good life cuz im guessin ill never come across this website again anyway...so good luck with the whole thing, and remember it's not all just about looks. Vicki xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): i think it is wrong!! ur a man she is a child .. get someone your own age
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2006): Well honestly if you think that by asking a bunch of people who don't know you is going to help then think again. No matter what these people say the decision is still up to you. If this girl is that important then hint a little bit. Bbut like you said; you think the feeling is mutual. You should probably make sure that is it before you go ahead. This could end in a couple different ways. But it's up to you to decided which one. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2005): For everyone there is a soul mate. You are not being an idiot you are just expressing your feelings. I my-self am 14 and my fiance is 22 and we are happy together. Of course most people will think it is wrong at first, but if the people who think that really care about you, end they see how much you love her and how much she loves you, they will learn to accept it. That is what happened to me and y fiance and now everyone that we know accepts us. If you and her sit down and talk about it i am sure it will work out. Just follow your heart and you will do whats right for you and for her.
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reader, pink_01 +, writes (15 June 2005):
i think yall should do what ya want, just keep it on the down low
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2005): I'm 15 and also a stable girl. I'm in a relationship with a man of 28 and we are expecting a child! I think you must think about what you really see in this girl! Did you know how old she was when you first met her? Do you even have full conversations or do you just find her attractive? You must realise that if you decide to have a relationship with this girl you must accept that your friends and family may abandon you as well as her family probably wanting to hunt you down! Age gap is a very sensitive issue which I think you should tip toe round with extra precaution! Just be careful and always remind yourself of how old she is, whenever you see her!
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A reader, fran, writes (7 February 2005): i wouldnt feel ashamed at all. i'm in a 14-year age gap with my husband and have been together 3 years. there is nothing wrong with having feelings for someone, but i will give you advice: don'.t do anything with her get to know her, make sure you let her know that nothing will become of you two before the age of 16!bif you like her she will be worth the wait.
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A reader, Starr, writes (5 February 2005): You should be ashamed even with being anonimous and saying you are having these feelings for a chid. That is very sick and are you aware that you could go to prison for this if you act on your sick feelings.If this were your child or family member, would you be so understanding? Grow up, act your age and not your shoe size. How can you actually think that things will work out being in a relationship with a 15 year old? Let's be serious and take a clear look at reality.
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A reader, rh, writes (2 February 2005): Yes, you are being an idiot. If you "love" this person you've never had a conversation with it's not "love" it's "infatuation" and when a 22 y/o man is "infatuated" with a 15 y/o girl he needs to seek professional help. If you have some kind of Lolita thing you need to go work it out in therapy or in fantasy sex/play with a willing partner of LEGAL AGE. Do not fuck up your life or hers by acting on your infatuation. Let her grow up without being taken by an adult who should know better. If she's attracted to you so what!! She's a teenager and will have all kinds of infatuations and crushes...sometimes on older men. You are the adult...or are supposed to be. So start acting like it. If you both are hot for each other three years from now then ask her out, have a conversation with her, and feel free to "fall-in-love." If, three years from now, you are still hot for fifteen year old girls then like I said before, seek therapy.
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