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writes:what is wrong with my boyfriend? Ok i been with my boyfriend for one year and a few months he is a truck driver im 30 and he is 34 he lost his job the other day and he acts likes he hates me he has been drinking very heavily he stayed out two days he doesnt want to be home with me he just wants to drink his life away hang out with the guys and play cards and when i tell him its going to be ok im here for him he gets mad at me saying i make him miserable when i say that im trying to show him im here for him but he tries his best to stay away from me please help
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reader, Time wont let me go  +, writes (21 November 2010):
 I would say he is very embarrassed, because he can't provide for you( its a guy thing) society tells them thats what they have to do. and he cant so I would say he is embarrassed and scarred of whats going to happen, such as what if she lost her job, what if she goes out and looks for a guy that can provide for her..... just let him know what your your telling him now, and help him how ever you can. thats about all that i got i hope it all works out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): for one you said he just lost his job the other day right? so he is drinkn and hanging out to comfort the fact he lost his security..dnt be so hard on judging him for the fact it hasnt been weeks or months of excessive drinkn and hangn out. men vent in different ways..they're not like us!! he probably feels bad and that he lost his job and is with you.. meaning most men want to be able to stand on their own feet and provide..strong men dnt usually want a woman to provide for them..there is nothn wrong with him!! he is just going thru alot right now. as far as him being mean to you now that's not right, and if he needs space then give it to him..you shouldnt have to feel bad around any person you're just trying to help. but if you love him try to undertsand him and what he's going through..tell him you're there to talk or whatever whenever he needs you, but dnt push and pry..most men dnt react to that well. when he's ready he'll talk.. he'll let you in..I dnt think you make him miserable, he's just miserable now probably because his circumstances have changed. you dnt deserve to have him say things like that to you. like I said tho if i were you id take some space because he obviously needs time to get bak on trak..people handle things differently and sometimes people who try to help end up getting hurt.. but i dnt think he intentionally wants to make you feel bad.. try to see how it goes for a lil while..
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