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writes:hello elders, im sophie, i have come to you because I am feeling so down and i just don't know what i want any more.Two years ago when i was 15 i fell in love with a boy called grant. our relationship was amasing, and he was most definately my first love. from the moment i saw him i couldn't stop smiling, i never even gave other boys a second glance, and i knew i wanted to spent the rest of my life with him. After 4 months we broke up, he said he was confused. i saw him several times after the split, and the way in which he looked at me, i could tell he was hurting too. it took me 8 months before i had another boyfriend, i refused to get over grant. then 2 months after that grant and i got back together, we were together for a month before i didn't feel like i loved him any more and finished it. I never gave it a chance to work. and now i wish i had. 4 months after our second split, his friend and I started dating, it hit him really hard, and it was really hard to see him. now, 2 years later, grant and i still talk, and i feel i can talk to him about anything, and sometimes i still miss him. i have a boyfriend now, but i seem to compare everyone to grant, to me, he was perfect. i cry at night because i wish i could go back to the way things used to be. what do i do? i have never loved anyone as much, and i feel like grant still might be the one, and if we gave it time it could work. Having been with his friend though i do not want to get a reputation. some nights i just really miss grant. please help me, im not sure what these feelings mean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): If you honestly think he's the one, then you can't miss out on it because you're afraid of your reputation! "i have never loved anyone as much, and i feel like grant still might be the one, and if we gave it time it could work."Some things are so easy to see if you stop outside of your shoes. Reread this post as if someone else has written it and I think you will find yourself thinking "well what's stopping her? what's holding her back?"That's what i'm thinking. If you think it could work with time, then time you shall give it. Are you willing to risk being happy with the guy you think you want to be with forever, for a couple rumors? I don't think so.. not if you really think about it. I know it seems like the most important thing right now to be seen by others in your ideal ligh, but you have to focus more on YOURSELF and not other people. Not to mention, is it fair to your current bf that you are in love with someone else? well.. you know the answer to that. goodluck. ~Sy.
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