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writes:how can i "win" back the woman i love ? we were dating for a while and now she says she wants to be just friends ,she said this after i told her how i feel about her . i am distraught, i truly believe she is "the one" and that i wont ever want to be with anybody else. sounds like im desperate , but im not , i just love her and want her back, the only reason i think our relationship ended was because i told her i basicly love her. i dont feel as tho i can go on without her in my life Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): i'm a woman going through the same thing. i feel for you hun, if love is not reciprocated hen what can you do. you deserve better, thats what people tell me anyway. i can't imagine my life without my ex at the moment but remember, this is what she chose and some people do regret, my x had a lot of complications in is life due to having a son with a barmy ex who couldn't let go. maybe i'm better off without this hassle, who knows but remember, you are special and you deserve to be loved the way you love, it's a two way thing. best wishes hun, i know how you fel
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2007): Sorry to say this, but you can't get her back. She doesn't want to be with you right now as she clearly stated, "she wants to be just friends". So I know this is painful to hear but you need to accept her answer and let her go. If you do love her a lot then you will want to support her own journey for happiness, even though you cannot be a part of that. There are no other ways or alternantives, that can be given to you here.
I am wondering why you do even love someone who has rejected you. And why you are having a hard time accepting the harsh reality of what 'she' wants. I think you really believe all your lonliness and sad, lost feelings would go away, if she just came back. That's putting a lot 'on this poor girl's shoulders and it almost sounds pretty unhealthy. The problem is your insecurities that will arise, over and over again in your relationship, as a destructive pattern. It will make you needy and smothering. Learn to gain the confidence you need to healthily accept someon'e rejection and stop working so damn hard to getting someone to care about you. Especially one that has told you what she wants! Care about yourself, first. I am sorry you are hurting--really I am. Be strong, get through this with distractions such as good supportive family and friends. Keep busy and please, take care of yourself. xx
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