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anonymous
writes:I am 31 and single and my boss is 47 and single. I do like him alot, but wonder about his feelngs for me.I started to notice him looking at me intensely in the staffroom or in a crowded room, and we still seem to be in the staffroom together alone alot at lunchtimes. I was slightly confused about the staring as he would stare me down and there would be no smile, just gazing. He later made a joke about looking at someone at work in a sexual way, and i just laughed at this and he laughed too. He would approach me at work to talk and we would always be smiling at each other. In conversations in the staffroom, he is cracking jokes and laughs at my jokes. He looks at me intensely when talking to me and I look at him too. He complements my standard of work and said i was a patient person.One day when i was at my desk I needed him to sign something and I passed him my pen. When taking it he interlocked fingers with me for a short time. I slightly and gently rubbed his finger, but we never spoke. He stood behind me for a bit, then walked away. I have also felt on 2 other occassions he has rubbed up against me in a busy place. A week or so after he touched my hand he asked if I liked a show on TV in the staffroom and I sat with him. I felt he was mirroring me and there was quite a bit of deep eye contact.When I asked him if he had family he said that he'd like to get married and have kids. He described his thoughts on this and asked what my plans were. When i ignored him one day as i felt the smiling at each other was becoming a bit much, he approached me each day to talk about work and phoned me at another office. I also get a strange feeling when I'm near him because i like him, but don't know if he also gets that feeling, or is it just me? Sometimes i feel as if he is looking at me. Im confused - does he fancy me? I'm confused because things seem to be moving very,very slowly. There are also times when others are around that he ignores me and which i don't understand? I have hinted very recently that I 'd like to go to an event that he goes to often and have asked abut his parents. What do you think?
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reader, Supreeya +, writes (11 September 2010):
why dont YOU try sking HIM out? maybe not on a date but ask him to join you for lunch, and that way you will both be away from the office (and prying nosey people) and can relax/get to know one another better. it doesnt have to be a date, just a coffee/lunch
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): When you say talk to him more and check how he responds, can you give me ideas about what i should be looking out for in his responses are we just talking about him being friendly or are there other clues?
I'm also very much of the dea that he should ask me out, any suggestions?
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reader, Supreeya +, writes (7 September 2010):
As long as you're 100% sure He's single, and you haven't been misreading signals or imagining the extended eye contact then yes, it sounds as though He likes you. If so, then the reason He behaves differently in front of others is because He probably doesn't want your coworkers getting the wrong idea. And i'm guessing the reason He hasn't asked you out is because If you don't feel the same way then it'd be embarrassing for him to see you at work everyday after the rejection. My advise is this, first find out on what your company policy is on office romances/relationships. If its okay then start talking to him more confidently and more about non work related things, ask him about his weekend, his hobbies etc. Depending on How He responds to you, you will get a clearer idea of his feelings toward you, If any. If its still a thumbs up then go for it and ask him He wants to join you for lunch one day, go to a lil quiet cafe, that way you are away from the office but still on work time, i.e none of the pressure of asking him out on a proper date.
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