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writes:How do I get out of a long-term love/hate relationship when I feel that I've become completely dependent on my boyfriend? How do I manage to live without him? I have pretty much no life of my own and no friends. Without him I'd feel so alone and miserable, but with him I feel resentment and anger. I feel like I'm stuck in the most miserable trap ever. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for replying... but I still feel most lost than ever. I really love this man but I just hate him too. I feel so miserable. I have allowed myself to lose independece because of a lot of reasons; a lot of stuff happening in my life right now. I could physically still be alive without him, but I wouldn't be living. I would just be dying. God, I have so many problems with this relationship that I just cannot talk to him about. I'd like to tell him how I feel, because he deserves it, but I'm afraid to because then he might leave. I want to go, but I don't want to lose him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): i have the same sort of problem actually except i'm on the outside now. instead of arguing one day i just packed up and left. i wanted some time to think about what was important. i think we may end up back together. i have talked to her a lot. but in the end its really about doing what you say, and saying what you mean. i think we are going to start dating again. she says her parents went through a faze similar to this. living without him isn't the hard part. if you do need to you can. only you know your problems. maybe you should think about when it was fun and exciting and talk to him about that. let him know that it isn't working. when people stop trying to impress each other they don't really do the same things anymore. if its unsolvable walk away. you just have to get up and leave. tell him your angry and resentful. at least then you'll both know the truth. sorry i don't have more of a real answer
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