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writes: Hi there,I have got back into dating after a 4 year relationship. When dating I have found that many guys say they really like me etc, until the subject of the status of the relationship is brought up. Often I have found that men seem to then back off. I am 26, attractive and fairly confident. I get fed up when guys play games, but I guess this is what is involved to get the person you really want, mens opinions please perhaps. Thank you!xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006): What Rhythmandblues has told you is spot on! You need to be very careful in thinking about bringing up "relationship status" talk! Anyway, how long were you dating some of these men before you wanted to have "the talk"? One month? Two? Six? You shouldn't even be thinking about it sooner than six months!
And she's right - men DO get scared. They think you're trying to "trap" them and get them to settle down with you....just enjoy his company, and no pressure!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006): Don't be the one to bring up the relationshonship status, guys need to be the one to bring this up....just continue dating and being s friend to the guy and don't act as if you are in an exclusive relationship if you are not, withhold sex until he makes this commitment to you or he will bolt. Men are afraid of the concept of commitment but that does not mean that they do mot want it or don't want it with you...they need to take things on their own time schedule, you just have to be smarter than they are be confident that he will realize that being with you just keeps getting better and better, so no heavy talks okay?
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