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writes:I started dating a guy that I met online a month ago, and I'm worried that I might just be a rebound for him. He was in a on-again-off-again relationship with a horrible guy for 3 years, and finally ended it only a few days before he messaged me and asked me on a date. At first I was unsure because he is a lot younger than me (he's a mature 22, I'm a youngish 39). We had an amazing first date, spoke every day since, and spent a couple of long weekends together. Now he is worried we have moved too fast. All his friends tell him he should just be meeting people, and he wonders if he made a mistake by getting too involved with me too quickly. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and I don't want to lose him, so I suggested we take a week long break to think things over. I'm pretty sure he will not go back to his ex, but I'm not sure what to do, or what he really wants. Any ideas?
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reader, ashley187 +, writes (9 February 2011):
 No offense, but you could be his mother. In my eyes.. it will never work. He's 22..how much life could he have possibly experienced? Don't take that away from him. What if he wants kids, a family.. can you give him that? And when you spend time with his friends (if you have) don't you feel out of place? I just think he would have much more in common (mentally) with someone closer to his age and a lot more to offer. A lot of people would think you were his mother when you were out to dinner or something, it might not bother you.. but I couldn't do that. If I dated someone 20+ years older than myself.. my family wouldnt accept it and neither would my friends. I think you are probably just a fling.. young guys seem to have a fetish with women older than themselves for that. Good luck either way. Not trying to hurt your feelings, I just don't think it's a good idea.
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reader, phoenix69  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 If he wants to move slowly then thats what you have to do or you will push him so far away that you will definately loose him. if you and him were truley meant to be together then it will happen but if you and him were meant for something other than a couple well you get the idea. Love takes time but we never want to wait. Hope this helps us gay guys gotta stick together lol
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