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writes: i reali lyk dis lad called wayne. he is 20 and im 14 bt he finks im 15. i dnt fink age shud b a problem bt im scared incase he finds out and wants nothing to do with me. please help. i duno wot 2 do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Chevette  +, writes (13 January 2008):
Is one year really that much of a difference?I can understand your situation, though...I'm soon-to-be 16 and I've...heh, fallen in love with a man who's 28. But, just go ahead and tell him...it's not like you said that you were 18 or anything. (I'm in California, 18's the magic number, rather than 16 =P)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2005): if you told him your one year older than your supposted to, he shouldnt make a big deal out of it. if he loved you, he would understand. if you told him that your were 14 because you were afraid he wouldnt like you because your young, than thats stupid, because if he liked you, it wouldnt matter about age
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reader, jendeszy +, writes (22 November 2005):
What if he finds out your age? "What if the police find out your age?" That's what I would be afraid of if I were you & him. Have you considered that maybe since you lied, he may be too? 14 / 15 same thing, your a minor. I think you should talk to him about the consequence of sex with a minor if sex is an issue, but more importantly where are your parents? I can't imagine that they would be ok with their 14 year old daughter dating and becoming intimate with a 20 year old. They can press charges or any other person concerned and then it's not up to your parents. The state will press charges. We all know what is on the mind of older guys anyway. I was once 14 and I had to learn from my mistakes. Ask your self, "What could a 20 year old possibly want with a 14 year old". I was nieve, dating an older guy got me pregnant and on probation for 5 years. When I turned 21, I wasn't allowed to consume alchol and I couldn't celebrate my b-day in a bar. Older guys that are bad news pick girls your age because your easily manipulated into doing what they want you to like giving them things for free, stealing,ect. When your 20 & matured, you'll be sickened by the thought of dating a 14 yr. old kid. Dump him, he's a pervert!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2005):
Uh, send him a note and I think he'll figure it out
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reader, Stewart Terrace +, writes (22 November 2005):
Your far to young babe if you like him you should be honest with him. He can get into so much trouble being with you and you dont want that and if he likes you you never know he might wait for you till you are sixteen. Just be honest to your self i have been there my self
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2005): It doesn't matter if you're 15, 14 or... 8-going-on-9. You're a minor, hon, and he's an adult. You're 'way out of your league and this can only lead to trouble.
A 20-year-old who's trolling for girls your age is only after sex. Repeat: he's only after sex.
That means, even though this is all very thrilling for you, he probably has no real romantic interest in you. He just wants to get you into bed. Are you prepared for that? Are you ready to be sexual? Do you have reliable contraception at hand? Because if he successfully manages that, then one of two things will happen. He'll either continue to use you for sex whenever he can, or you'll think he's "in love" with you and will want to be his girlfriend, which will make him run.
A 20-year-old man who can't find a girlfriend his own age either isn't trying, or is a paedophile. Neither option is very attractive.
Consider too, that you're already starting out your "relationship" with a lie about your age. You already admit that you don't know what to do. You're not sure what he'll do if he finds out you're only 14. What do you think your folks will think of this guy who's half-again your age, and the fact that he's hoping to bed you? Not exactly welcoming, huh? Things are already spinning out of control, aren't they?
Do yourself a favour and stop seeing this guy. Get rid! He's a lowlife and perv. There are a whole school full of boys your own age that would be much better for your mind, your emotion, and your sexual self.
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