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writes:Hello again. Clearly waiting around for the guy I love isn't an option. If he can't make a commitment, or respect me, there isn't really a point. But the problem is, we're really close friends and we talk almost everyday. I know that I'll never get over him if he's calling me everyday, but I don't know how to go about getting over him. Any suggestions??? Any personal experience, or opinions would be VERY helpful. Thank you for all answers. Reply to this Question
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reader, deebee +, writes (6 July 2009):
Stand your ground - refuse to take his phone calls. Do not answer his emails or respond to his instant messages. No cyber-stalking on social networking sites. Stop driving by his house to see if his car is parked in the driveway, or to see if his room light is on at night. Don't go back to places that you used to hang out together hoping you accidentally run into him. No! You can not be his friend, at least not until you are actually over him. Don't pretend to be over him, just so you can be his friend. He will know you are faking it.
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reader, Only_In_Dreams +, writes (5 July 2009):
Only_In_Dreams is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys! You've been really helpful. =].
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reader, Only_In_Dreams +, writes (5 July 2009):
Only_In_Dreams is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's my ex, but we're friends. Lol. He always gives me stupid reasons why we can't be together again, I'm just sick of it. And obviously this is for his benefit, I'd never really thought of it before, it's not like I'm getting anything out of the deal except hurt. Thank you so much for the help!!!
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reader, Kami  +, writes (5 July 2009):
Changing your number is definitely worth it, and take time to concentrate on you and do things you enjoy to take your mind off it. When i split with my ex i took up running because it makes you feel so much better about yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): Yea the best way to get over somebody is to cut off contact. Otherwise you never will. Change your number, block his e-mail, that should do it. Eventually he'll give up and he'll leave you alone. and you'll be able to go on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): Oh my god, I am going through the EXACT same thing. Only with my ex. The only answer I've ever been given was just to ignore him, which isn't impossible to do, but it's an option that most women aren't exactly capable of considering it involves matters of the heart. I suggest changing your phone number (and don't give him the new one!) and just live your life as if it were fabulous anyway. He bothers you for his own benefit; be the strong, independent woman I know you are deep down inside!
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