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writes:Three years ago I left my boyfriend after four years together. We remained friends the past three years but neither of us expressed to each other that we should give it another try, although we both made hints about the possibility. Recently, my ex has started a relationship with someone else (5 weeks) and told me that we should not have any contact for the time being. This made me realize that he may not be in my life in the future so I expressed my desire to have another chance with him (selfish?) I think I would have been OK had he just told me to go on with my life but he didn't. He talked about our future, promised we would have another chance and said to be patient to give him time to distance himself from this person. It has been almost a month and he has made no contact with me and I don't think he is distancing himself. I'm confused that he would not have enough respect for me after eight years to tell me the truth and not fill my head and heart with false promises. Should I contact him or just continue to be 'patient' or get on with my life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): He is just stringing you along in case things don't work out with woman #2. I know you love him, but he dosen't respect you enough to let you go...so do yourseft a favor and find someone who respects you and loves you like the Lady you are. Best of Luck Sister Sue!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): Thanks for the input on my situation. You all have expressed what my family and friends have been telling me. The problem is, I can't seem to get over the fact that he could not be honest with me. Will it help me to go see him to get some answers-like why he lied to me and didn't just tell me the truth? I feel like I won't go on until HE gives me closure. HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Hi
what he is doing is keeping one foot in the door, you know just in case. Maybe you both missed an opportunity to be together, so now i am afraid it's the new woman's opportunity. It may work for them or it may not, but while he keep's that foot in your door as soon as he finds out if he prefers her he will slam the door shut. So it would be a sad waste of time for you hanging about waiting, tell him to get stuffed and in the mean time i suggest you do the same but with a new man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): I think you should get on with your life. People do brand people like you selfish when they realize they want someone once its too late. However, it just feelings and we can't alter your feelings.
You could contact him and see how hes doing breaking someone elses heart? Or you could find someone who won't 'mess you about' and find someone you will want to spend the rest of your life with.
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reader, loveguru23 +, writes (14 July 2008):
I truly believe you need to go on with your life. He has obviously gone on with his. Getting back with an ex can bring along many problems..they're your exes for a reason.
Start a new relationship with someone else. Becuase if you wait, you may be waiting forever.
Daniel Amis Author & Relationship Coach
www.relationshipadvice4you.com
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