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writes:I dated a guy casually for 8 months, he never committed to me but we spent a lot of time together. He just moved away to another city, and we didn't really discuss what would happen between us. I cried on his shoulder the night he left, and he said he'll miss me and I hold a special place in his heart..Anyway, we're still friends. I want to go visit him sometime, but I'm afraid he'll be freaked out if I went to visit him. I'm not sure what we are. Should I just disappear for a while, or keep in touch? I've barely heard from him since he left, but he's been busy putting together his apartment and new job.I miss him and want to see him again, but should I just forget it? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know this relationship was doomed from the beginning, but I'm lonely here and what we had was comfortable. I feel very alone now that he's gone, but if I visited it would be just a weekend thing, not to maintain a relationship. I'm looking for other guys, I'm sure he's looking for other girls, but I still have some feelings for him. It's very confusing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): If he intended to pursue the relationship, he wouldn't be too busy for you. I think he said it all to you just before leaving, and it was a nice thing to have said. Appreciate what you had and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): I think you should read....He's just not that into you...to start. If you do decide you still want to visit him...you have to make sure you are going there with no thoughts of this going anywhere at all. If he really did want you he would be looking for you. He's your friend with benefits...and thats all there is to it. Best of luck to you...
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reader, L*  +, writes (8 September 2009):
Have you been in touch with him? What was his reaction? Usually, you can tell by his reaction (was he nice to you on the phone or pretty abrupt?) if he wants you to keep in touch or not. good luck
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