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writes: I am a 20 yo male and have never done it before. I have a gf who is also virgin and we have been hinting sex to each other. I want to do it, but I fear for many things. I fear that she will feel pain during it, that the condom might break, that she might become pregnant, that I won't be able to please her, etc. But the ones I mentioned before are my main concern.Can anyone give me any tips, experiences or anything that might help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): I think you need to calm down with the "what ifs" ive got alot of friends who are girls and most of them told me that they felt pain on their first time of penetration. Its something that is quite common. condoms dont break unless they are weakened by finger nails or if they are caught on the foil packet as its being opened.
if your girlfriend has the same fear of getting getting pregnant then ask her to go on some sort of contraception (the pill, patch, injection or implant) as they will help decrease the risk of pregnancy and put your minds at rest.
and communicate during intercorse! that is the only way you will ever truly satisfy her if you dont know how she wants it you will never satisfy her. Try a bit of foreplay aswell as it will give you both a rush gives you both chance to explore each others body intimatly. plus it will make her wet and it will make intercourse less painful
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): If yous are both ready and hinting to one another then yous probably ready to give it a shot. First thing, you need to stop freaking out and being pessimistic. If you start worrying and jump to conclusions then your going to make things worse for each other and you don't want to do that. Its your first time so enjoy it without thinking bad things. As long as yous are safe and wear a condom then everything will be fine! :) .. As you said before yous are both virgins? Don't worry if you think your not pleasing her enough its new to her aswell so don't worry. Practice makes perfect. You could ask her if there's anything she wants u to do to make it nicer? Talk openly about it :) everyone's nervous when it comes to losing their virginity, its natural so be safe and enjoy it, especially when its someone you love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): If she is a virgin, she likely will feel pain from it at least the first time. This is simply something you can't control. However, you can help by making sure she is good and turned on and naturally lubricated before you start. As for the condom breaking, as long as you have put it on properly and it has not expired, this generally won't be an issue. Pregnancy is always a risk with sex, but using a condom and her being on birth control greatly decreases the risk. If you are still very worried about it, perhaps you aren't ready. Instead, explore each others bodies and be intimate in ways other than sexual intercourse.
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reader, Natalie:)  +, writes (1 November 2010):
 when she looses her virginity she is very very likely to feel pain, but she has got to loose it one day and will experience that pain at some point in her life! The best thing you can do for her pain wise is stop if she asks you to! Make that deal before you start. don't worry about the condom, its so rare for it to break, they wouldn't sell very well if they didn't do there job so it's in the company best interest to get a good quality product. Don't worry about pleasing her because she has a duty to please you too. Don't expect anything spectacular first time but you will learn together how to bring each other more and more pleasure. Good luck and you should def have a proper conversation with your gf
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reader, mylove09  +, writes (1 November 2010):
well, she should get on some type birth control before you guys do it. its better for both of you guys to be safe. and trust me its going to hurt for her, but its normal, and its your first time, its understandable and if u don't please her the first time,is alright common you need to gain that experience by practice, no one is born knowing how to. i think your worrying to much. she will understand and I'm pretty sure shes having the same questions! just make sure she gets protection also tho. just to be safe.
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