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writes:Hi everyone, hope you're all doing well!So here's the thing me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months, not that long I know but I'm ready to settle down now I've done all that playing the field and so has he so I was hoping he would be ready to settle down too. My boyfriend is 10 years older than me and we are very much in love. However, we live separately and only see each other at the weekend, sometimes not even then due to both having work commitments.In the past few months he's mentioning stuff about marriage stuff I have taken lightly seriously I'm not deluding myself here but he's said stuff like..."would you marry me if I drove that car" (whilst looking up a potential new car)"mum loves you she said I should marry you"and "I love you i'm going to marry you" (whilst we were play fighting and just joking around)so stuff thats not to be taken seriously but lately he's been using the words 'marriage/marry' a lot but I don't feel as though he is ready to commit, I'm not saying I want to marry him right now but he doesn't seem bothered that we only see each other weekends whereas I am... so I'm kind of getting mixed signals.I don't want to ask him as I don't want to come on too strong.What do you think is going on? Reply to this Question
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Sounds to me as if he is very interested in you and maybe "testing the waters" as it were. Perhaps you could joke back to him about it but don't put pressure on him and begin asking if in fact he DOES want to get married.
Nine months is really not a very long time to be together, as you recognize. Your best bet is to continue seeing him, and just let things develop naturally.
If he really is serious about wanting to get engaged, he'll bring it up. Meantime, do you know whether you and he are financially able to make that kind of commitment?
There's a LOT to consider when contemplating marriage.......as I'm sure you are aware. See how it goes, be open but don't be in a rush - not that you are trying to pressure him or hurry it along.
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