A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm married and my husband really loves me. to me, if you love somebody, you spontaneously start not to like the other males, spontaneously don't find any of them handsome or attractive. Love is like that for me. Thaank god, my husband thinks the same and he never finds any other women attractive or beautiful. but he says " I don't like them because I don't want to like them". but I always believe that this is something happens spontaneously when you are in love, but he says that he feels the same way but does it deliberately, not spontaneously. I'm sure he doesn't find any other women beautiful, so please make no comments on it. I just feel myself disturbed because of that word "want, deliberately". I do it spontaneously and I want him to do the same. What does this mean? I can't find any other person attarctive but he says "I don't find...." I can't and he doesn't.Help me, I really need to understand the meaning he's trying to tell me. You may think that I2m freak. I know it, no need for comments. Just try to help me with my question, please. I need your answers immediately. Thanks to everybody who cares and comments. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (8 July 2011):
 You're seriously over-thinking this. He's not trying to convey any hidden meaning here, he just wasn't as eloquent in his wording as you probably were. He's your husband, you trust him, so try not to read into everything he says as if you'd been dating for only a few days.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): Maybe he said he deliberately doesn't want to find other people attractive because he knew the way you felt about it and he didn't want to upset you.
Surely you must find other people attractive? there is no harm in that and your doing nothing wrong, its healthy.
Just because you think somebody else is good looking it doesn't mean that you are lusting over them or having an affair or thinking of straying its just human nature.
...............................
|
