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*elly2084
writes:My problem is I have been friends with a guy for quite some time and I never thought of him as anything but platonic. Then something changed I was struggling with a personal crisis and he was there every day near me at work and he cheered me up. He didn’t even know that he was helping me. Then I got the feeling that he had feelings for me too. In a meeting he spent the whole time trying to get my attention asking me question, no one else there were 5 other women in the room and I caught him several times looking at me then looking away when I looked up. Then I saw him again at a conference and we ended up in my hotel room but we only had a deep and meaningful. Although that night he told me he had a girlfriend and that an ex had cheated on him and it broke his heart. Now he avoids me at all costs and even the friendship that we had before is non existent. I can’t stop thinking of him and it is driving me crazy. I understand that he wants to be loyal to his girlfriend as that is the kinda guy I would like one that is honourable but it is killing me. I don’t know what to do? Please Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): I think he felt he was getting too close and as he has a girlfriend felt he had to back off. In some ways think of it as him being a good guy - he doesn't cheat on his girlfriend. So I do not think it is personal. You both just got a bit too close. Take your lead from him, in time he may feel he can just be on friendly terms again.
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reader, Melly2084 +, writes (8 January 2011):
Melly2084 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for the answer what you said rings true and i will try not to take the backing off from me personally. I hope I do find a guy like him he is very special.
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reader, Melly2084 +, writes (8 January 2011):
Melly2084 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the answer what you said rings true and i will try not to take the backing off from me personally. I hope I do find a guy like him he is very special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): "an ex had cheated on him and it broke his heart"
So, leave him alone until he leaves his gf without any help from you.
Why?
Because he's right about the first line, and that is why he didn't cheat with you, why he's avoiding you, because you are willing (and tempting) and he doesn't want to do to another human being what was done to him.
Yes, that is exactly what it feels like....broken heart.
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