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writes:This is about a professor of mine at college. He's a little aloof, rude and a trifle arrogant.Yet he's a genius and extremely open to people who can approach him. I used to dislike him for his attitude, yet in the past year I'd begun to find myself somewhat fascinated by his nature. I always find myself criticizing him for his aloofness, yet want to make friendship with him. Like...understand him and dissect him intellectually...he's such an interesting guy. He's not in our class presently, but I'm really fascinated by him and want to get to know him better. As in, forge a close teacher-student relationship. But the trouble is, he seems to behave in a rather stiff and restricted fashion whenever I approach him. Today, I went into his office to show him an interesting book on his subject that I'd bought recently. But I was rather hurt by his reaction. He didn't show much of an interest, just mumbled a few facts about the book, and then right away excused himself and walked out of the room. It was really disheartening for me and it made me feel inferior when I saw him smiling, chatting openly with his close students.And ever since, I'm feeling like crap. Nothing I can do would make this depression go away. Please offer a word of consolation.I keep on over-thinking the situation and "why did he do this?" And it hurts me so much. I've had to muster so much courage to go up and talk to him, and he snubs me this way. All I wanted was to be talked to freely, and instead he gives me his disinterest. I know that he probably did not intend it, but even that thought cannot make the hurt go away. Sorry if I sound like a retard, but,PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, I really need some emotional support right now. I need to be told something to make me feel better.PS: It's not that he doesn't know me, he taught us before and he knows my name. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): You ask the same question different ways every few months.Your teacher is NOT interested in having anything to do with you. Your past actions could have cost him his job. He knows you were involved.You need to stop obsessing about him. You will never be one of his favorites. You will never be able to have the rapport you desire. Please seek professional counseling for your unhealthy obsession with this professor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2012): Hi again. No his "close students" aren't all males. They are BOTH male and female. And he dosen't just discuss work with them. He chats with them, cracks jokes, laughs etc in his office, for long hours, whenever they call on him random. Like, paying social calls. They include some people from my class too. That's what hurt me precisely; I know I should've expected that as you said, but it still felt humiliating.
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