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writes:im 15 yrs old and thers his boy that i have known for like almost a yr now and he just turnt 16 and i really really like him and i know he likes me to because he has told me many times.he knows that i am a virgin and he has told me that he isnt and im ok with that. hes told me that he wants to take my virginity away and that he will not just sex me and leave and that he really does like me and that he will take it slow. but im still kinda worried its my virginity and i am proud to still be one but i think i am ready to lose it and i think i want it to be with him. hes asked me when and where ive told him where but i dont know when or if i even should do it even though i think i am ready im just so worried about the pain and not being able to take it.does it always bleed even if you have been fingered?does it hurt if you havent been fingerd by another person?should i lose my virginity now and to him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): the fact that you have to come here to ask 'am i ready' shows you are not. You wouldnt need our "aproval" if you really knew it was what you wanted.
Hold onto your V-card a little longer honey
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (3 June 2009):
 Hun he's just trying to use you and get you in the sack.
he is telling you that he won't leave you but he will!
hell i am like 20 and i'm still a virgin!
and to be honest i am really proud of that!
you really shouldn't rush into this.
because he knows you're a virgin he wants to be the one to pop your cherry so to say.
but you're only 15 you've got so much ahead of you.
you really are better off waiting until you KNOW! you've got the right guy.
hope this helps.
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reader, dontjudgeme1  +, writes (3 June 2009):
umm you shud hold on to it for as long as you can ; i wish i had held on to mine and now here i am 15 and 4 months pregnant and not even by the boy i lost it to. From another young girl to another i think that its best that u hold on to it for as long as u can and it sounds kinda silly that yall wanna lose it to each cause u like each ; umm noo wait till u find some1 who u are truly in love with thats the smartest choice or if possible till when ur married i kno we aint the same person but i think that just the smarest and safest cuz u dont wanna end up hrut they all say they love you and gonna stick around but it end up not happenin ; well good luck sweetie and i hope by the time u read this u are still a virgin lol
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reader, deadheart123  +, writes (3 June 2009):
you would bleed if your "cherry" is not broken.
im not sure if fingering would hurt, but im sure that intercourse would hurt for the first few times.
if you really love him, and WANT to lose it to him, then you can go for it, if your not ready then tell him, im sure he would understand if he really loves you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): I am 17 and I am going to give you my advice about your situation.
I lost my virginity at 15 and the guy I lost it to we dated 2 years and we waited a year to really think about if that's what we wanted. He told me he loved me and he was so good to me but after I finally gave it up things slowly went bad. It gradually got to where he was paranoid about me cheating, then he got worried about other guys looking at me, he thought that since I gave him my virginity he could control my life. I stuck it out because I really cared for him but I honestly regret it with everyday of my life. I have a boyfriend now that is NOTHING like that and I really wish I would have waited until I met him.I would almost swear he's perfect.
I'm not trying to influence you with my stories but all I have to say is please think about it long and hard. I wish I would have realized that your not 15 forever and that people really do change.
Also. Yes it does hurt. The first time it took my breath, but it is bariable. More than likely you will bleed if it is your first time.
Also, remember sex is like smoking- once you start it IS HARD to just quit.
I hope everything I have said has helped. :)
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reader, The Shadow's Tears +, writes (3 June 2009):
 Hello,
NO! please oh please no. look sweetie your 15! way to young! and only known him for a year! no! if all he's asking is sex, then that's all he wants OK? you cant give you purity to some guy you've known for a year, and not think about all the risks you'll be taking! it sounds like he's no good!
I'll tell you a secret OK? i'm 17! turning 18 and i still hold me "flower" and i'm not going to give it up to any man I've known for a year! heck! i'm dating a guy I've know for like five years and i'm still not giving him my "V-card"
your way to young and i feel all hes after is sex. so please don't let him take away the one thing you have. please don't because you'll regret it.
you can pm me if you like, we can talk about this more.
X: Shadow Tears
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