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writes:I was dating this guy 3 years ago and I still miss him, he has recently been coming to mind a lot more. i have even been dreaming about him and even feeling that warm happy feeling i used to get when i was with him. I don't know if I am crazy and maybe i should just forget him. We did not break up on angry terms,but we are older now and i am pretty sure he is single. would it be wrong for me to try and contact him again. The only other thing i really want is just to see him one more time and actually hangout with him, i plan on moving away probably after this year and i would really like to just be able to say good bye when i leave for good. Is it a bad idea to contact him at all since he has made not effort yet either?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2013): I would not contact him i would move on and leave the past where it is and look to the future you say you only want to see him one more time you will only end up getting hurt as you said he has made no contact with you i wouldn't contact him personally
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2013): If neither of you made any attempt before now, 3 years later, then it's best left in the past.You haven't given reasons why you broke up, and even though it was amicable, it's still best left well alone.There must be a reason why you suddenly miss him, think about him, dream about him - usually when we are still single after some years, we remember all the good about that person and wonder "what if?" Doesn't mean there is anything left - a lot of time has gone by, people change, feelings change. So even if he is still single, does not necessarily make him any more perfect now than he was before.Don't romanticise the past - keep the happy memories, file it away into a previous chapter of your life, and wait out the year before the big move, to focus on the future, and the potential new guy you may meet ;-)With your ex - as you said, he didn't make any effort, and seeing him now would just complicate things: raise unresolved feelings, and if you did realise you still felt something, you are moving away, so how would that help?So it's probably best to leave it, but it's still your decision...
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