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writes:I met this exceptionally beautiful girl about 3 years ago through a friend of mine. At that time we both got attracted to each other instantly. But she wasn't from US so she went back home after three days. She contacted me from there and soon after I told her that I really liked her and she admitted that she did too. We talked a lot over the phone and IMs for the next two months until one day she called me telling that she will not be talking anymore as she is getting married blah blah(which I later found out was a lie). Buying which we decided to be good friends there after.After a month I found out, the reason she broke off was.. this attractive guy asked her out. She went out with him for about 3-4 months until he dumped her. I know all this because she use to share it all with me, how that guy used her. During that time and after that she apologized to me many times for whatever happened between us and we shared an amazing connection. All this while I have also been out with three other girls. But I never felt connected to any of them because I always had her on my mind.Some time back I told her about my feeling for her. But she replied saying that we are just good friends and nothing more. Because of which I stopped talking to her for a while. After some months she got back in touch saying that she was wrong and how I am the only one she can ever trust even though we haven't met that often. Then again we started talking for a month till one day she told me that we should just be friends as we don't know each other that well and shouldn't get too close knowing considering the geographical distance. Then again we stopped talking for a while until one day she got in touch telling how much she misses me(I don't know if it meant in a friendly way or the other way) and she is sorry as she never wanted to hurt me. We started talking again but this time she was keeping a bit of a distance. This time I wanted to give in my best shot so went on and visited her for the long weekend. I have to say she treated me exceptional well took me out and about. Not waiting too long I asked her out on a date, but she refused saying that she can't go out on a date with a friend. I said all right and didn't talk about that topic then. But when I got back, I asked her what is it that she wants and why is she so confused about us. She replayed by saying that I'm confused as it is not practical and she doesn't want any complications in her life because of the geographic distance as she doesn't want to move my country neither wants me to move to her's just because of her, as we haven't met each other in person that often and don't know each other that well yet. And she wont be able to forgive herself if I move there for her and we don't happen for some reason. Not understanding any of it then I told her that she is wrong and she shouldn't do this to anyone else as it really hurts. Hearing that she replayed, that she doesn't want to talk to me anymore and it was great till the time we were friends. Soon after I realized maybe she was right and maybe I was wrong and impractical and a bit too crazy about her(which I feel I still am and might always be). I seriously feel I have lost a special person or maybe a so called best friend in life. I know she does miss me because I see her visiting my profile quite often through a social network(secret profile viewer) but don't know as what. I would really appreciate it if you could suggest me what to do. I am really confused with this feeling. Can I be friends, should I be friends or can it be more and how do I reach out?
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reader, Shortcake +, writes (28 August 2010):
 I would be her friend however, keep her at a distance. She truly does like you but she has a good reason to be concerned. True you may not have a problem with the geographical complications however, she clearly does. Whether she is questioning her own strength or yours it make sher uneasy. If it is meant to be then it will be. She sounds as if she needs to learn and love herself before she can move on. As far as her visiting your page it's only to be nosey. Does she seem to contact you when it seemsm someone else is interested in you? How will she know this, hmmmmm spying on your page.....duh. LOL She may like the fact that she can control your temperment. Just to see what I'm talking about, act as she does and the next time she contacts you play into her little game and you call it off first. I guarantee she will almost become a stalker then. If she does then she's jsut playing around with you and drop her like a hot potato. You sound like a good guy and need someone that shares the same perspective in life, love, and situations as you do. Much luck! Be sure to let me know how it plays out....
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (28 August 2010):
You need to move on.... your not confused she is and is only confusing you what a head game! (brain twister) you may think of her more but it takes 2 and she has put the writ'ing on the wall for you in black and white i don't know waht part you are not understanding other then your not wanting to let go! let her go mess w/ someone elses head and if she calls you just tell her you don't need her head games anymore to find someone else and that you wish her a good life! stop driving yourself nuts over someone who just does not care! it aint the end of the world and shes not the only woman out there. give yourself some peace of mind move on............
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