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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Ok, so the thing is my ex boyfriend went though a really bad patch about 2 years ago after he lost his father, they were really close, and they spent most weekends together, then after he died he started drinking, smoking weed, and cheating on me, and a few times hit out at me, once was when i refused to take part in group sex. We have a 5 year old son together,( named after his father ) so because of this i see him quite a lot, and the past few months he has got his act together, and wants us to try again. I know i still love him, but i don't want my son to what he father could do if he goes back to his old ways. So if anyone has been in this position before, victim or not, please help me because i really don't know whether to follow my heart or my head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2008): Use both, you obviously still love him and it will be good for your son to have a father figure in his life. BUT... You need to be aware this time, anything that could indicate you ex could be slipping back into his old ways needs to be treated with caution, do not be blind to his words, he has to prove himself to you. Remember that trust is earned, and if you really do mean that much to him then he will agree to any rules you make regarding your relationship. Good luck Xxx
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reader, cuteandsassy 2.0  +, writes (25 July 2008):
Your exboyfriend's behavior signal that you are in
an abusive relationship. but it is true that people can change. iF you want to you can give him a second chance
but don't walk into anything blindly set conditions and
bounadries let him know abuse will not be tolerated. It could be that he was just grieving . which is still no excuse for treating you that way.but don't do it just because you want your son to have his father back that's always a mistake.
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