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writes: My girlfriend broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. I still love her, but she can't forgive me for something I said back in march and says she can't be with me anymore. We're still friends. She's found a new guy she fancies and she says I should do the same.So now I'm alone. And although I find it hard to imagine myself with anyone else, I need to try.But my problem is, I'm really fussy about girls and I don't know anyone I like. And I don't know how to meet girls. It seems like the only people I meet these days are friends of friends, and it seems like I'm not meeting anyone new. I've just finished uni, so I'm not meeting anyone new like I did there.I don't know where to meet people. Clubbing's not for me. And I just don't know where to meet girls or how to talk to anyone for the first time. She was the first girl I've been with and we were friends first so there was no getting to know each other kind of thing, we just got together and it felt like we'd been together for a long time right from the start because we knew each other so well.Does anyone have any advice that might help me? Bearing in mind I'm looking for another relationship, not casual dating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2006): Haha i just had the same problem as you( except I was the girl in your situation) And the first thing I would recommend is to not dwell on it and do something for yourself first. The first thing I learned in life is to not have to rely on others for your happines.. learn a new hobby or sport. Focus on yourself first( or at least see your faults that wrecked your chance on that relationship) And if you cant look at yourself then try. Sometimes your insecurity all roots from that.Second, open up your heart and get out of your shell. Sometimes it all boils down to just guts. If your not willign to take a part in choosing your destiny, then there will not be any destiny that fits your ideal choice.( If you dream, you need to work for it) If you are serioulsy socially inept, then get some pointers from friends and seriously practice them and incorporate them into your life9 ahve you heard of affirmations?!?!) Anyways, get out- go to coffee bars or local music shows- and meet people( friends mostly- because they are the ones that usually can hook you up with someone who would fit you) and have faith in them too.hope that helps
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