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writes:I was in a relationship for 13 years, eight of which I have been married. Well my husband and I split up a few months ago and I started seeing an ex who is 30 years my senior. I have always had feelings for my ex and could actually say that I loved him even throughout my marriage. But I am still very much in love with my husband even though we are not together right now. I still see my husband and talk to him. We are on very good terms. I love my husband and can not get him out of my head. On the other hand I am pretty much living with the ex boyfriend and have told him that I love him. I love them both and do not know what to do. The man I am with is very caring and very optimstic that we are really going to work out this time but as the weeks go by I don't think I am on the same page as he is mainly because I can not get my husband out of my mind. What do I do? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): I think you need to step back and look at the whole picture! Does you husband know you love him like you do! You need to tell him and if you love him go after him! Life is to short to be unhappy trust me I know! I waited to long to get back together with my exhusband and now he has a girlfriend! They live together and I am miserable!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): I would tell them both the situation. But tell them together and in a public place (eg. restaurant etc). this will minimise the chance of an outburst of emotions towards you or the other guy if this were to happen. Secondly, it is up to you who you love the most and who you will choose to live with, care for and love for the rest of your life. What ever you do, dont carry on lying. It always will be worse the longer it goes on. I hope i have helped a little. Hope it goes well. Good Luck
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