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*orrisomegal
writes:I am dating a guy who happens to enjoy going to a nude beach (I never had).He explained that there is nothing wrong with it and yet he admitted that it flatters him being looked at by naked women and also to look at women's private parts if he misses me (we have long distance relationship) But he assures me he is not cheating on me that he loves me, but I am having a hardtime accepting this habit of him and it seems that it is very disrespectful to me and to our relationship especially if he chats with naked women.I think it is some kind of cheating is it not?I'm debating on dumping him since we dont share the same interest, but it is hard because I love him but I hate him in this interests in the nude beach , any help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): I don't think this guy is a nudist. A nudist is somebody that worships nature. They have a belief that people are born naked and clothes are a barrier in the world. In Europe there are many nudist beach and colonies of nudists, who share their holiday's in places where then don't need to wear clothes. I many places in Europe it is natural for women to go topless, and nudity is a common sight. But there is nothing sexual about it. It's just people getting a full suntan in the open sun. Your guy sounds like a dirty old man, who looks at other women and gets a thrill from thinking he's hot. Whatever floats his boat, I say.
This is his hobby, but the scene is not as dirty as it you may think it seems. I would suggest that you take the brave step, and go with him and find out just what is going on. You present as aged 41-50years (overage) and currently living in the Canada. Your old enough. I suggest you try a nudist beach with him, you will find naked people, reading books and sleeping in the sun. He may look at other women, but I'd bet you their too busy relaxing to notice him. If you can't accept his interests and it makes you feel bad, you have no option, either he gives this up, or you must move on.
This man is not a nudist, it's not something you can just give up. It is something as important to them as religion and God is to Christians.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): I figure, as long as he doesn't touch, it is okay. Every woman (well almost) has boobs and a vagina, and so do you. It's natural. I'm sure he wouldn't mind if you did the same thing and looked at men. Don't dump him just because of this
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reader, tierani417  +, writes (13 July 2008):
 Um..Well this sounds pretty bad, if I was you i'd kick him to the curb. It'd be hard havig a longdistance relationship especially if he does something like that...I dont know what to tell you, but that sounds pretty weird. He might be cheating on you..If you really wanted to find out..(spy on him) figure out when he is going to the beach and see what all he does..If you can catch him in the act, dont freak out on him, just tell him he either needs to stop being a nudist or he can forget about you
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