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writes:I don't know how to begin. I guess ill start with the basics. I am 17 and me and my girlfriend have been going out around 5months and i am so in love with her.I can really see us being more than a high school thing and us never breaking up and shes agreed. Heres the catch though, i dont know what to think about it because i honestly would want to, but....are we to young to be thinking about anything further than high school? Now its been brought up, its on my mind a lot and its just making me overthink things. Not only this but like, we had a pregnancy scare and to be honest there was a little part of that thought 'itd be hard, but not a bad thing'Im just so confused about it because i really feel like we could be more than a little high school thing that once happened but can it really last longer than that.I could just use someones advice more than 'it wont last' someone thats maybe been in a similar situation where it did work and that every person goes through this.
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reader, zerwas3  +, writes (19 October 2010):
dude dont worry about it i was at that stage too when i was dating my girlfriend too... and i waited it out and now we have been dating for over a year now and it flew by.. but all i got to say is just dont worry bout it you will be alright....
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reader, alif  +, writes (5 July 2010):
 i love my girlfriend so much i want we last forever
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reader, SteveandAlly +, writes (4 April 2010):
Well my friend I must agree with the other posters that no one can answer that question exactly. My best advice I can offer for you however, is something I've applied to my relationship with the love of my life. That would be not to think about the future too much. Live your life one day at a time. Its a great thing to anticipate that your relationship will last a very very long time, but don't over-worry yourself about it. After-all you can't enjoy all the little things you and your dearly beloved experience when you question or worry of things like such. As far as it goes with my sweetheart, I am thankful for the time I've been graced with her and not so much questioning the future. I love her superior to everything else and I love her as my best friend, as a person, and as my companion. We've had our disagreements but we always come to realize we are too important for stupid things to come between us. Honestly keep your priorities in line like education, but don't be discouraged by others saying that you're young or don't have enough experience. Hope everything works out and may you be together for a very long and prosperous time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Statistically, no, chances are it will end at some point.
But others have met in high-school and lived their entire lives as in love at the end of it all as they were when they met. Mostly they are from a by-gone era when relationships actually meant something.
Still true love does exist. And if you are lucky it comes around once in a lifetime.
It might last. Or it might not. Only time can tell you that. And you never know... you might be one of the lucky ones.
Flynn 24
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reader, momo4eva77 +, writes (22 December 2009):
The samething is happening with me. I am in high school too and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 months but i knew him for very long time. We both have thought about being together more than just high school and maybe being together forever and together. I personally think that you should just try your best to be together and if you cant then you cant. the best thing is to just follow your heart and try to do the right things. Because if she doesnt end up being your future wife or soo just remember this saying: Never long for anyone from your past. There is a reason they never made it to your future." Just try your best and try to be happy during the moment. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): I know this sounds awful to hear, but you are still very young and over the next 5 years you'll both go through so many changes that who knows what you'll want in the future. My mind has changed so much since high school and things that my parents told me actually make sense now, when in the past I was always like "you don't understand me", "it's different", blah blah blah. I'm only 24, not much older than you, and I constantly remind myself of the fact that I don't need to be any certain way right now and I have so much more ahead of me.
Just live in the present. Be careful with sex. I know plenty of people who have been with their husband/wife since high school and are still together, but on the other hand I also know plenty that got together young and it ruined their life. My sister got married at 16 and has been married for 6 years. Both her and her husband are happy with each other, but not happy with themselves. My other sister got married at 17 to the love of her life. They divorced after a year, and she's been miserable for the past 5 years and is still single. My oldest sister had many relationships and finally settled down in her 30's and she has the best relationship I could ever wish for anyone. They have money, a nice place to live, kids who can take classes and have what they need. She would never have that if she didn't go through her life experience first. She met the guy in Austria and they live in NY together.
In high school your life's priorities are totally different than when you're older. Don't live with tunnel vision of your life. There are so many things out there for you to do still, if she's an asset and is backing you up, then maybe it's totally different. But for the most part young relationships are going to inhibit your own decision making for what YOU want to do in this lifetime.
Every person is different. Every relationship is different in the eye of the beholder. So just don't do anything that will pin you down. If it's getting serious, lighten it up a bit. Who knows what will happen after high school. There's college, moving to different cities, states, countries. All of these are options for you now. If you pin yourself down, you'll be taking someone else in consideration ahead of yourself and potentially not doing what you're meant to do for you.
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reader, Frenzotic +, writes (22 December 2009):
 I would never let age dictate the lasting of a relationship.
Simply put, if you guys love each other enough, can forgive each other and work at arguments, help each other through the trials life throws at you both then it will last.
However, seeing as you both are pretty young, I don't think you guys can say yes yet to what I've mentioned above. The only way you guys can find out if it lasts forever is be together, be in love and ride out life together and see how it goes.
No one can tell you if it can last forever or not, only you and the one you love can go through the trials and see if you're strong enough to make it last.
Good luck! =]
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