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writes: i have been with my boyfriends for 4 years now like every relationship we have had up and downs we have gotten into fight where he tells me he donest wnat to be with me and all this crap but then things get better and we get over it. i know how he is allready and he loves to talk shit when he is mad. but lately things have been weird and he says he wnats to leave but when i tell him to do so he says he will do so when he wnats to. he tells em he is to young and wants to be able to do thing and not be like his married i love him but i dont know what to do? does he love me? is it just his age he is only 22? is he confused? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): thanks for you guys response they really help. i know that the best for us is to have some time apart but i mean is kinda of hard since we do live together he could go back to his parents house but i dont think he wants i dont have family out here so is a little harder for me. i know he is not goign to wnat to talk about think especially not right now since we are really not talking. i am thinking that maybe by giving him his space bu not calling him or texting him or questioning him about where he is he might start to wonder whats wrong with me and might come back around what do you guys thing? or maybe i should go back home for a month?
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reader, mezameo +, writes (20 June 2008):
This is the hardest part of love. The settled in phase where one wants to roam. The only way to get over this is to let him go. Sadly, this is the risk of love. If he really loves you, you need to let him realize it. But he can't do that if he is always around. The cliche' if you love someone set them free is very valid in your case
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): Sorry I know this is hard, but you are still both young. If you've been together for the last 4years he may be in a panic and feeling life is passing him by as he settles down to the routine of a committed relationship and probable married life.
It's nothing your doing wrong, it's just that things have become very serious, very fast. You need to talk honestly together about your feelings and your future. As Smiles has said a period of seperation might be for the best and allow you some space to develop individually and make sure your relationship is the thing you both really want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2008): This must very difficult and confusing to you.
I suggest you have a heart to heart conversation with him, nice and calm, not all emotional; discuss the future of the relationhsip; as it sounds to me, he needs "time out", in which instance, allow him the space.
You are young and have been together for 4 years; it might be good for both of you to be on your own for a while.
It will give you both time to re-evaluate your relationship, to discover your feelings for each other and to either get back together or to move on!
be strong and best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Sounds like you should let him go. And if thats not a choice then talk to him about the way he is acting, and how his actions have been bothering you lately. And if he still fights with you about these things, then it sounds like he doesnt care about you as much as you thought he did.
Best of luck!!!
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