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writes:so my first year of college (i am starting my fourth year now)i had a little fling with a guy, let's call him adam. we got along so well, he's nice, smart, attractive, amazing, etc. i liked him so much. but i'm sure i came on a little too strong for him at that point and ruined that. but i never totally stopped liking him, it was really strange.adam and i didn't really talk for about a year and a half. we just acted awkward and said hi when we did see eachother, we are friends with some of the same people so that happened every once in awhile. but we had a class together at one point and sat together and gradually became, i wouldn't say good friends, but friendlier, not awkward anymore.then this summer we both happened to be here over the summer working instead of going home and we hung out more since there aren't as many people in town over the summer. so of course i like him again, full force. i tried to make a move on him a couple of times... the first time at his house we all had been drinking and i ended up sleeping his bed and i tried to make a move but he said he was too tired, but that he would if he wasn't. but then the other time he gave me a sober ride home and i tried to get him to come inside. he didn't want to, said he was tired again. so i kissed him. he kissed me back for a little bit but still wouldn't come in. is he just not attracted to me?here's where it starts to suck. about a week after that i was talking to my friend (who is gorgeous) and she said she made out with adam and he tried to sleep with her. anyway basically he likes her and she sort of likes him (not as much as i do), but she is moving. like i had to sleep on the couch one night while they went up to her room, i was about in tears. i haven't acted upset toward either of them because they are both single and can do whatever they want. i also am afraid i would completely ruin any chance at even a friendship with him if i had gotten in the way of that.but what should i do? she is moving in a few days, should i go for it again or just give up? i like this guy a lot so i don't know what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): yeah i already told her that i really liked him a lot before that happened. she was just like "oh, i'm sorry. well i'm moving soon." so i dunno.
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reader, iloveyhoo  +, writes (8 August 2010):
 Well you like this guy alot, so either tell your friend that you really like "adam." when she moves , give it a bit of time, but then get close to adam again , don't rush into it whatever you do. Just stay at frriends for atleast a month. Dont kiss him, none of that, just keep it simple friends, unless he makes the first move.. then you carry on. But for a while , don't try making the first moves, let him, cos maybe thats putting him of you, cos your making the first move, and your not ready. so maybe he's feeling like your pushing him into a releationship too far.
Good luck, and can you go onto my profile and answer one of my summer romance quesions
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): It sounds like he definitely doesn't fancy you, I mean you've offered it on a plate and he doesn't want it, though you should still tell your friend that it upsets you their gallavantinig.
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