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writes:i lied to my galfrnd a lot. like i created a fake id with my uncle's name.. and chatted with her . i started this to actually settle some disputes between us so that we will not fight and also to advice her on some bad people in the school who are trying to eperate us. but eventually i used this id to create a good impression on myself and win her love.. initially she never loved me but said that she is ready to marry me if her parents agree. and after some months she was impressed with me. and i also tried to win her sympathy by saying that my health condition was bad.but i felt that i had to put an end to this. but she came to know abt this before i told her. and now she says that i played with her trust and she doesn't believe me anymore.and doesn't want me. but i really loved here a lot. i always felt proud of her. i felt proud to introduce her to my family, friends etc.. and now i confessed.. i am sorry.. still she says she can't accept me.. but i loved her so much.. that i did lie .. but i lied for her. i never had any intentions of lying to her and sleeping with any other girl or something like that. \what should i do now Reply to this Question
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reader, Too Sensitive  +, writes (6 February 2009):
You were completely misrepresenting yourself to her. No matter the intent or reasons behind it. The trust has been severely violated. Use this as a life lesson to learn to never lie again to anyone, for any reason (other than if you are trying to surprise them with a party or gift or such). Once someone lies to us, then we no longer know who they really are, esp. in your case. We thought we knew them, and then we discover we really don't. We no longer know what is the truth and what might be a lie. We question everything thereonin. Is he telling me the truth, or is he lying again? We are forevermore suspicious, questioning everything that is said and done from that point forward.
I don't think there is any way of recouping this relationship. There is no way to make it up to her. She won't give you a chance to, anyway. Realize the huge mistakes you've made, leave her alone, let go, and move on. Hopefully you will know better next time, and realize that honesty really is the best policy.
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reader, don1331 +, writes (6 February 2009):
don1331 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut is there a way that i can apologise to her..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): and instead you gave her some bad experiences with someone lying!
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reader, don1331 +, writes (5 February 2009):
don1331 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyaa.. may be u r rite.. but i was never afraid that sshe wil get into a relation with anyone.. i wanted to save her from some bad experiences of people cheating.. which i faced
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): you said that you did it to 'save her' i think that she wasn't in need of saving!
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reader, don1331 +, writes (5 February 2009):
don1331 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni need more answers please... is there a chance to fix things
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reader, don1331 +, writes (5 February 2009):
don1331 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut i love her a lot.. and all i did was to save her ... just got a little over posessive.. but i will never repeat things like this again
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): She deserves someone better. HOnesty is the best policy.
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