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writes: i keep having misunderstandings about my bf. i take what he says seriously because i care but i'm finding it really hard to read his tone/expression. i don't know if he is truly upset about something or if he's just saying to let me know. his tone makes me automatically assume its something bad, only to get upset over nothing. it bugs the hell out of me that i cant read him and it makes me want to give up when i am in love with him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Italie  +, writes (28 March 2006):
 I used to have a lot of misunderstandings wih my bf as he is from the South of England and I the North of Scotland. He would say quite a few things to me in a way which I found disrespectful and would blow up at him ("dont talk to me like that!!!") When he actually didn't mean it like that at all.
I still feel now that he talks down to me sometimes but I know it's just the way he says things and it's not how he feels about me. He is also quite expressionless ans I find it difficult to read what he is thinking/feeling but, again, it's just how he is.
We are 2 years down the line and I've given up arguing about his tone of voice as invariably he didnt mean anything by it and the same with his expressions. I have learned to walk away but it's not easy. I still cringe sometimes when we are out in public and he says something in a way I feel makes me look small. I know other people are wondering why I let him talk to me like that but I know it's the way he is.
You cant expect to change him. You just have to either accept how he is or walk away. Trying to change him will only cause problems and heartache.
Good Luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2006): Are men and women meant to be able to read each other?? if im unsure about what a partner means or is trying to get at them the best thing ive always found is to just get them to explain what they mean ... that way you dont make a mistake and read them or it wrong.
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