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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have recently discovered that i have mis-judged someone for the last 5 years.I have worked for my company for the timeline above and have always enjoyed it although one of my managers, i thought didn't like me and gave me a hard time.But now i have realised, and with a few wise words from people i love and trust, that i have looked at my managers actions in the wrong way. I have been thinking of her as interfering and rude and harsh. What i should have been realising is that throughout these years, despite any mistakes i have made, and me thinking she was critiscing, she was actually trying in her own way to guide me, She has always been there for me, and i have never appreciated it and instead i silently fumed and said she was interfering to everyone i knew.Instead of focusing on what she was saying, i got sooo mad at her for daring to contradict me. And i think to myself now, while i am angry at her for doing it, she has every reason to do so. She is my manager. But i was focusing on the way she said something and bristling at it, while i should have been listening to what she was saying.It makes me so mad when i realise how horrid i have been. One of my friends says i have been an utter twit. And i'd have to agree. Things are so constrained between us now that i don't know how to remedy the situation. And so i am on here, asking your advice. My boyfriend says i am being too harsh on myself, but i have always had a conscience, and now it has come back to haunt me. I just want to make things right. Please help. It might not seem like a BIG problem, but i feel absolutely rotten!!And why, because recently i have found out that she has had nothing but good to say of me for 5 years!! Urgh, i feel terrible.Thanks for reading this. I can't get over it at the moment. Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 May 2010):
 You could apologize to her for having the wrong perceptions of her and if you cannot bring yourself to apologize to her, be nice to her and appreciate her. Or you can walk the extra miles for her.
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