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*emonlampshade
writes:I have somewhat recently started having feeling for a fairly good friend. I have known her for about a year through our church group. I would really like to go out with her, but I also don't want to hurt our friendship. The real problem however, comes in the fact she is going out with someone. I know it's not reasonable to expect to go out with her when she has a boyfriend, but I am trying to figure out if I should tell her. I understand why telling her could be a very bad idea, but I also would like to tell her because I just really need to get it off my chest and just to have her be aware of it.I am really at a loss for what to do...please help.
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reader, Spl-ash  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 If she is already with someone i reckon you should not tell her. if you really want to wait till she gets out of her relationship. if you tell her now you'll be giving her a choice to choose her boyfrien or you.
Getting into a relationship with your friends can only mean two things
1. it works n is perfect cause you know each other so well or
2. you loose your friend
has she actually showed any interest in you more than a friend?
if you really want her how about you subtly court her... don't make it too obvious... invite her out to movies, bowling... friendly things first and see how she respond. Make her see the caring boyfriend side of you without actually mentioning anything...
let me know howit goes
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (13 June 2007):
 Hey Huni
I always said to myself DONT DATE YOUR FRIENDS i broke that and did now ive lost him and its awful im gunna listen to my advice again from now on and its what im goin to tell every1 whos falling for their friend, However if you do want to get it off your chest and think shell understand then just have a liddle quiet word with her just tell her that you dont expect her to leave her bf or anything it was just something you wanted to tell her im sure shell be flatterd just dont get ya hopes up yeah dont mean tht nasty just sayin that cuz of her having a bf good luck :)
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