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writes:Hey there,I am a 19yo sophomore in college, living with my fiance, who I have been with for just over a year now. We are very happy together, even now with the stresses of maintaining a household and us both getting through college. We're best friends.I have always thought that I would want children some day, far far in the future, but now I have this irrational, overpowering desire to have a baby! My fiance wants one too, just not right now, and he knows about this wacky urge I've been having. We've decided to wait until after college, but I need to know how to stop obsessing! It's driving me crazy! Has anyone else felt like this before? Is this normal? If so, how did you cope?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (26 January 2012):
 Yes, but I'm 27 and married.
It's called your biological time clock. Technically it can go off at any age, sometimes as early as 14. Mine didn't start ticking until I was 24. It's completely normal to yearn for a child.
To cope you can babysit, that's actually helped me to an extent (although I have an entirely different story all together). Or you can do what IAHTY said and figure out it would cost to have a baby. It's been estimated to be several thousand. Do you have that kind of money at the moment??
-You have to pay for daycare (since you're both in school) which is about $800 a month.
-Formula (which goes fast) is $23-$25 a pack. Keep in mind not all babies can breastfeed.
-Diapers cost anywhere from $12 and up. You go through those fast as well.
-Clothing
-Basic healthcare for the baby. Do either of you have good health insurance?
-Nursery furniture
- Binkies
-Bottles
-Toys
-Car seat
-A rocking swing to soothe them $160
-Bibs
-Burp cloths
-Baby shampoo and body wash
The list is endless..
I'm assuming since both of you are in college that neither of you have a decent paying job, if one at all. So if you're going to have a baby, make sure YOU can AFFORD one.
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