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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for over two years now, he was my first boyfriend and I lost my virginity to him. I love him and can see myself spending my life with him. For some time now I have been finding it hard to imagine only having sex with him for the rest of my life, I think this is because I lost my virginity to him and didn't have a chance to experience being with other people. I'd hate to not be with him and would definitely never cheat, but I can't help feeling like this. I'd really like some opinions and experiences if anyone has ever felt the same.
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reader, Jjang19  +, writes (3 March 2011):
To be honest, its almost impossible to stay with the person you loose your virginity to.The girl i lost mine to was kind've slutty and had lost hers 2 years before I met her at age 16. I was still a virgin at 18 and there was nothing more i wanted than to be in the 'norm' and loose my virginity. However, i was disgusted with the fact that she had slept with other people. Our first time, and several times after that were great, but I knew it would not last, and thus by leaving her I opened up several new possiblitys which are quite enjoyable.Moral: Sex with 1 person your whole life worked 50 years ago, but will be impossible today.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2011): You wont stay together at this rate. All what has happened is your relationship gone stale (it isn't a lack of love). Life can have a big impact on this too with unrelated things like money worries etc.
You need to find ways to spruce your relationship up, perhaps experiment more in the bedroom.
Failing that you will split up within 5 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2011): I just recently told a friend here about a girl I knew years ago. She was silly young (16?, 17?) when she fell seriously in love with an older guy (22, 23?). Pardon the question marks but this was in 1980 so my recollection of the details is a bit off. The girl, we'll call her Cheryl, was quite certain that she loved this older guy (we'll call him Dave) and he was her first. She loved him huge. Her parents did everything they could to keep them apart. So Cheryl, as all teenage girls will do, found every moment to be with Dave. But there were lots of times that she couldn't be with him.
And while Cheryl loved Dave, the fact of the matter was that she was a high school girl and was doing and feeling what high school girls did. So as much as she loved Dave, she also loved some other guys. I think Dave was always first in her mind. But she entered into a relationship with John, and tried as she might to have sex with him, as much as it might not work. And then dumped him and literally picked up guys in bars. Bottom line, Cheryl did maybe a half a dozen guys, she sowed her wild oats, got it out of her system.
Dave, bless him, stayed around. Married Cheryl. Their kids are in university. And Dave and Cheryl are 50 ish empty nesters and happily married.
I don’t know if you can be Cheryl. If you can stand to be “torn between two lovers”, if you can, frankly, behave “like a guy” the way Cheryl did. I never really asked her if it messed her up. But I can tell you that she is a happy camper in her marriage 20+ years on.
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reader, Learner.uk +, writes (13 January 2011):
 Hi,Your feelings sound abit mixed up at the mo, your going to be deep in love as he is your first boyfriend and lost your virginity to him, I felt the same with my first girlfriend and went off to experience new things with other people which looking back now I wish I had stayed with her. Your going to have to have a long think about thing's and decide what you want...at the moment it sounds like you are happy with him and he is a good man so you should feel positive, have you tried experimenting with him? if not why not as I am sure it would be fun for both of you! At the end of the day all men have their bit's and bob's big and small but they might be pants at kissing talking foreplay etc so if your happy and your boyfriend loves you and you love him why leave over sex when you could prob have a great time together and a great life! Do what you feel is rite for you.Hope this help's to make your mind up and all the best.
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reader, Akir +, writes (13 January 2011):
I to once felt like this, but I thought about it too much and let my manhood take control rather than my heart and I lost the girl I loved. To this day I do regret doing so, if you can spend the rest of your life with one partner in such a way, you are truly strong willed.
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