A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was referred to a paid online dating site by a close friend and have met someone that I am very interested in...he's charming, funny, well-educated, etc.Because I am knew to the online dating scene, I have a couple of questions. I am hoping I am just over-analyzing the situation. *Since 'meeting' less than 2 weeks ago, we have exchanged 30+ emails. (Most are short, 3-4 sentences.) He has yet to ask for my phone number. I feel like we need to take the next step (i.e., phone calls and/or meet) but am not sure how to initiate this. I don't want to get emotionally involved without figuring out if there is real chemistry.*I have no picture included with my profile because I work in the criminal justice field - he has not asked one question about what I look like or if I could provide pictures. (Yet, he has several pictures on his profile.) Is this alarming or unusual?Thanks in advance! Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): I think the next step would be for you to send him a picture. He may not want to appear shallow and ask for it, but I am sure he is curious as to what you look like. If you are sending it to him, no one else will see it.
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female
reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (11 November 2009):
 It is a bit unusual for him not to have even asked what you look like, but not alarming. He probably knows women are often bombarded with requests for pictures and numbers so he could be allowing you time to get comfortable with him. Rather courteous really. Some men are like that. He may even be shy.
Your next step is IM, not phone calls. It sounds as though you haven't actually had a real conversation yet. 'Meeting' less than 2 weeks ago is a bit soon for many to be moving on to phone.
You're moving a bit too quickly in my opinion, which I can understand since you're new and nervous. It's normal.
Remember he is probably speaking to other women as well, and expects that you're speaking to other men. That is to be expected. You're not in a relationship and you're both still getting a feel for what is out there.
You're more likely to make an emotional investment in him if he is the only one you're talking to. Gain some experience, talk to others. View each person, not as the possible 'one' for you, but as practice and hopefully some interesting conversation.
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