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writes:why do guys hate all ages hate to be seen with with fat and ugly girl,why don,t these girls ever get asked out and treated nice.why do guys have to be so shallow and egologstical.thats not fair, to treated girls like this like they don,t extistt.have you blokes and conscience at all.obviously not. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2009): i agree with you whole heartedly sweety. i aint a supermodel either and i hate it when people say physical beauty aint that important. Apparently inner beauty isnt the 'only' factor that attracts the oposite sex. i guess most of it stems from media, fashion etc. people have this 'ideal girlfreind' material already engraved in their mind. About the whole idea of that 'there's someone destined for you', its quite possible. why dont u go in for a new hairstyle, or shop for something peppy- give yourself a makeover. And trust me makeovers arent for just stick thin people. go enjoy yourself with your freinds or family.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): Not all men like skinny chicks. You just have to find the one who prefers the voluptuous ones. They do exist. BECAUSEMy husband has since gotten more attracted to me now that I put on 60 pounds in 6 years and weigh 186 and am 5 ft 5. I was once a 130 pound hottie! Now that my sex drive has disappeared and I feel worthless because of my low self esteem due to my weight issues my husband pines for me more often and there's not a dang thing I can do about it! Eventually you will find a guy who likes them BIG women!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): i know how you fill im 11 and im fat and ugly in 6th grade
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): I personally am not attractive to overweight girls because I find it represents health problems either now or in later life and it is a sign of laziness. Granted there are some people who are obese for medical issues, but majority of people who are obese are that way because of poor diet & lack of exercise. For me I am very fit and active and have a very healthy diet. I go to the gym and enjoy hiking, swimming, cycling, rock climbing, skiing, surfing etc and an obese girl will not be able to enjoy those activities with me. And for those reasons I am not attracted to obese girls.
I know my reply will probably be condemned etc but I am just answering truthfully because you asked for a truthful answer, and most guys I know who do prefer girls who are not obese will give you a similar answer. Saying that however, different people are attracted to different things and there is someone out there for everyone. There are lots of guys who do like and prefer obese girls. It is down to preference and attractions and what people have in common in terms of lifestyles etc, everyone is different. If you are upset about being overweight and it is getting you down, then you should try to do something about it - adopt a healthy diet & go to the gym. If you are happy with yourself and your weight, then start feeling a bit more confident and happy with who you are. No doubt you will attract people who can recognise that because confidence is one of the most attractive traits.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): First off, only 2% of the worlds female population even fit onto the size/weight of a model. The rest of us surely don't. That is a fact of life. Men are very visual, that is a fact too.When people are depressed and self hating ( and it sounds a little bit like you are right now) you give off a very negative wibe. If there is something about yourself that you are unhappy either work on it or start to accept it. I know it's easier said then done. But don't change for another person.Don't sell yourself short. Yes, some people are shallow, but not everyone. Have you considered talking to your doctor about it? It might be you are a little depressed and if loosing weight is something you want to do, it might be a good idea to start with the doctor and a dietitian.
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reader, samsmommy +, writes (30 December 2008):
 I don't think what you look like matters as much as how you carry yourself. Of course if you dress like a bum with no makeup and your hair a mess, the guys aren't exactly going to be lining up, whether you are ugly and fat or not. And being fat has absolutely NOTHING to do with it. My friend just got married this month and she is probably about 200 lbs. But she dresses nicely, her hair is always pretty, and she always wears natural looking but pretty makeup. So it's all about how you present yourself. Once you get some confidence the guys will see that, and having confidence is most definitely more attractive, to girls or guys, than having no confidence, and trust me it shows when you don't have confidence in yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): They don't give these girls a chance because most of them are conscious about themselves and they call themselves fat and ugly. They might not seem bothered about it at first but once you become a friend to someone like this or close to someone they will mention there fat and ugly body and hideous features. Learn to love yourself and do something for yourself such as take up a hobby and boys will become attracted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): It doesn't matter that you aren't the most beautiful person in the world or a bit overweight but if you feel "fat" and "ugly" then this is going to be a problem!
It's a cliche but if you can't love yourself who else will? I am supermodel material and weigh about 190lbs but when I'm happy and chatting with my boyfriend I feel sexy and beautiful and I'm sure that makes him love me more.
People say looks don't matter but they do, you can't have a relationship without sexual attraction. That doesn't mean to say that everybody in the world who sees you thinks "wow, hot alert!" It means the guy who's meant for you has to.
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