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writes: My boyfriend and I just broke up today because I have been lying for 3 months about what I have done with a couple guys instead of just one. Is there any way I could get him back? He said he did love me but that all changed when I told him about those guys. I felt I had to tell him. I didn't want to live a lie all my life because I really loved him. I'm sure he does still love me; he's just mad and hurt even though he tells people he's fine, so what can I do? I really need him in my life. I can't stop crying and it makes me sick. I think about him til I fall asleep even if I try to get him off my mind. I wake up crying because I'm thinking about him and the worst of all, I'm depressed! I can't eat or sleep and it's hurting me physically. Is there anything I can do to get him back because I feel like I can't go on without him and I DON'T want to get over him. I need him. Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2006): I think that all anyone really wants is someone to accept and love them for who they are. In order to have someone be this for you, you must be willing to give them who you are; flaws and all. There should be no hiding, no lying, no excusing.
One can better appreciate another when the other has been accountable for all they say and do.
Two fast dying values in the world of today is Forgiveness and compassion. If you have these two values and LIVE them; then you can have a lasting peace with yourself and those around you.
I am glad that you were both able to overcome the pain and realize that your love is worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2006): I am gay and lied to my partner for 3 months about still being in touch with my ex and got caught! Even after all the sorries she still keeps going on how much i hurt her and will not forgive, says i am selfish disrepectful and a cheat. Is this love as i feel guilty everyday for supposily destroying her!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2006): I DIDNT CHEAT lol ..it was ex's i lied about but we are back together i learned i dont need to tell him every detail because i didnt even know him and im sure even though he says he tells me im sure he wont tell me some details. in my opinion it just ruins the relationship but i just wanted to make it clear i didn't cheat. thanks!
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reader, shortandsweet408 +, writes (29 January 2006):
 This is what cheating does to a relationship. I've been in his position. So I would suggest to leave him alone and let him hurt it out. You will get over the "alone" feeling but always remember you put yourself there and gave yourself that feeling by hurting a great guy. In turn he left you, karma. You don't cheat on someone you love, period.
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reader, StarNews +, writes (28 January 2006):
 If this is something you did in the past, and you came clean by telling your boyfriend, then you did the right thing. You no longer have the burden of feeling that you lied to him. If he cant get over it, then that is his problem, and he can now carry the burden. Dont ever allow anyone to make you feel guilty for anything you have done in your life. A loving, caring person would not make you feel this way. They would be forgiving and supportive.
You did the right thing by telling the truth. Now I think what you are feeling, is the need for love and acceptance from someone who is undeserving of it. Realize that you dont want or need someone like this in your life. He needs you, as you are an honest and caring person. He is not worth all these negative emotions you are feeling. Focus on the positive things in your life, your family, friends, and keep busy doing things you enjoy. You will see how quickly he fades out of the picture, and that you really didnt need him to begin with!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2006): You don't need him. You need more guys to bang you. It's bad enough you lied to him about two guys you did stuff with. You're just feeling guilty. Geez, I hope you never try to get back with your ex. I feel so bad for him. Get on with yours! He doesn't deserve to be treated so badly!
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