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anonymous
writes:i feel like my trust issues are pushing my boyfriend away. he has hurt me before, in a previous relationship more than a year ago. i used to be fine with him spending one on one time with his girl friends, but he ended up falling for one of them. he wasnt a nice guy in our relationship and would normally just tell me to trust him and deal with it if i was upset over something. it took me another 6 months to be able to trust him again as he is really a changed and matured person and he tried really hard to get me back once he realised what a mistake hed made. im now even extra uncomfortable with him going out alone with his girl friends. he keeps telling me how much he loves me and he has cancelled his plans to be with other girl friends alone when i say it upsets me which leaves me feeling guilty, but at the same time happy because he has changed and now takes into account my feelings unlike before. its like i want him to not want to hang out with other girls without me telling him, but that just sounds incredibly selfish. is it wrong for me to not be comfortable with him being alone with a girl friend? i dont know what to do i love him and i dont want to push him away but i cant seem to stop being controlling Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): Its not surprising you cant trust him! If my boyfriend had ruined my trust that way i wouldnt be able to trust him again! I dont know why your doing it to yourself to be honest, if he did it once then whose to say he wouldnt do it again? I'd advice you move on, being with him when you cant trust him, it isnt gonna work. Your playing a losing game!
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