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writes: Please help, i am playing with two peoples heart one is my partner and father of my daughter who i have been with for 15 years. The other a man I met when I went to england for my mothers funeral. I have become a different person since my mum died and allowed myself to develop feelings for someone else. My partner is aware of this but is also being supportive of me cause he loves me, he thinks I am confused and lost. My problem is the other person arrives in Australia next week to be with me, I have tried to end it many times but he put pressure on and gets nasty so I cave in. I want to work things out with my partner we have a good solid relationship and I dont know how the other person snuck in but I cant seem to let him go. I have considered not turning up at the airport he will be with his friend and they will still have a trip of a lifetime but it feels wrong to do that. But if I see him I know ill get sucked in and believe he is what I want. I just want peace in my mind, to make a decision and stick with it I hate that im playing with hearts I never intended it to get so bad. I just want my daughter and my partner but how can I let the other go without him hating me, I have made promises and meant them at the time but I cant stick to any decision. I suffer from depression and this situation is not helping, somedays the only option I feel is to end it all but I would never do that to my daughter. I want to be a good role model. Please help, I dont know if my partner and I will ever be the same again but we deserve to try, but I hate hurting people even though thats what im doing. I keep hoping someone else will make a decision for me, that one will walk away, but they havent and wont. Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI still need a bit of help, he arrives tomorrow and today has been what seems like one of the hardest of my life, avoiding the temptation to book a train to the airport tomorrow. I have been texting him asking to meet, he is so upset and confused and my partner is still listening and helping me through it he feels im not mentally stable enough to make a decision (which I truly am not) I cant even work out whats honest in my mind and whats not. I keep imagining him here and that he and I could take on the world but at the same time I promised my daughter that I wont disappear again. I love my partner and can see things will work in time but the arrival of the other person is posing a serious problem, im hurting, because im only in the early stage of getting over him. What if he contacts me when he's here and Im too weak to say no. Ive messed him around so much and ive hurt my family terribly badly but they are still by my side, Ive also hurt myself so badly that I cant see right from wrong, good from bad anymore. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for your help, I think you just confirmed what I knew in my heart. Thank you
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