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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, and i have cheated on him twice and they were the two biggest mistakes of my life. I just want to put things right between us because I love him so much.I need help what should I do. Reply to this Question
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (8 April 2007):
 You have been with him since you were very young and this was always going to happen, whether it was now or later in life, or both. We all need that time to mess about and explore the world and ourselves, being with someone from 13 is way too young! You're just a little girl then and, although you really love this guy, these relationships rarely work out because we all need that 'us time' to find ourselves.
However, the only way to sort this mess is the come clean. He deserves to know and, if you love and respect him, you'd do what you expect from him: the truth. Whether or not he forgives you, you know you did the right thing and things will get easier with time. You'll meet someone else (after a lot of single fun time, I hope!) and you'll have learnt from this. You cann't be 100% happy if you're cheating, can you? I think you need to think long and hard about why you cheated and how you really feel about this boyfriend.
If he does forgive you, maybe you can work it all out. He will have to be very mature and forgiving and you will have to be ready for a lot of insecurity and obsessiveness over where you've been, who with etc. But if you think it can work, they go for it.
But I think there was a reason you cheated, not once but twice and you need to think about whether he's really what you want. Get out and have your fun time, if it's meant to be, you'll end up together in the end.
Good luck
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