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writes:I am in a relationship where I am facing domestic and emotional abuse. I don't know what to do and need someone to talk to. The relationship, when not violent, is perfect and I am deeply in love with my boyfriend. But the way he treats me when we are agueing eg. hitting me, threatening me and trying to hurt me, really affects me and is messing my head up. Yet I still can't leave. My boyfriend is on one side a bully to me but on the other a very caring, loving and good person. I need some good advice as I have no one to talk to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2011): Im currently in the same situation. Your not alone, I kicked my guy out of the house yesterday and am having a very hard time not taking him back. I found this site because now he's promissing to get help (if i'll take him back) but in the same breath of offering to get anger management, when I said yes, go get it and we will talk, he said he thinks he doesnt really need that, that I can help him better than some stranger? so he really is just telling me anything not to "loose me" and of course Im the "best thing thats happened to him" la la la...... but I miss him terribly so....idk what to do either
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): I really feel your pain. I am in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship, when he going through a calm spell he is charming man, but soon after, the abuse starts again. I am addicted to him, but know I must leave him, to regain my self esteem and sanity. I have just done that, by sending him a very polite text, because if I speak to him, I will weaken, and fall back into the same pattern again, I hope you get out also, no matter what it takes, think of yourself for a change. Lisa
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): Hi, Iam actually in the same situation. And the reason why I can't leave is because he is such a sweet guy when he is not mad. I still don't understand why I love him so much, we've been together for two years, and I've become to dependent. Im still thinking he will change, because he says he wants to. When he is abusive, after he reacts and ask me for forgiveness, he can go weeks without fighting with me, not even close. But then, when Im starting to think he is changing, he does it again. I, too, need someone to talk to you know. He is after all my best friend, almost my only friend, I came 2 and a half years ago to the country im living in, I dont have good friends. Nor family, besides my mom. You should leave him, I should leave him, we can do much better than that, start meeting people, good guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): pack your bags he is an asshole and you can do so much better than him ! you want to be a door mat then stay and see if he changes? .... he want change why should he you love him and you let him treat you like dirt. Its very common way for some men to behave one day loving next its the put down either mental of physical. My girlfriend lived with an artist in Paris , good looking talented but a total nut job she wasted 10 yrs of her life with that idiot and finaly had the courage to walk away from her business all her friends move to another city and start again because one day he would have killed her. happens every day !
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2009): I was in such relationship too. But after I broke up with him, I realised that there were so many better fishes out in the sea! No matter what the girl did, the guy should never hit her or abuse her. I suggest you leave him as he is not treating you right.
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