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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello I am still in love with my fiance, he has moved on and has expressed deep feelings for this other girl. But also expressed deep feelings for me still. I am skeptical about him. The more I talk with him each day, the more I feel me losing the feelings I do have left for him. I thought he had changed, but I see he is the same person I left behind two years ago. I just don't want to disregard my feelings for him because I know he has feelings for this new girl, but in my eyes of what love really is, if he loved me wouldn't it be hard for him to move on so quickly. The pattern I have noticed not only with me but women before me is that he can move on so easily and quickly. He beleives he has waited long enough for all us. ?? Can someone explain this behavior, for I am running out of excuses for him to help myself understand. And to bring some sort of closure so that maybe soon I can have a functional relationship instead of worrying about the could have's...... Thank You all in Advance for your advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): I'm a lot younger than you and I don't really have the experience to judge this situation so my answer is purely based on my opinion.This man does not deserve your love if he can move on so easily. And you're right, he could not have moved on this quickly if he really loved you.Maybe you should ask him what it is he wants, whether he wants to be with other girl/ woman or you. If he says he wants to be with you, work on your relationship, but make it clear he won't get any more chances. If he says he wants to be with this other woman, move on. if he says he can't decide or wants to be with both of you, make the choice easy for him and tell him you need to move on.
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