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writes:Ive been with my gf for 1 year and 8 months now. I like being with her we both gave each other our virginity. I feel that shes a strong future for us both together, but i dnt feel the same because when we first started going out she told me about her past, she hadnt had sex but she had done much more then I had ever done. Since that time,I get this horrible feeling inside me sometimes, and think I can't go through this for the rest of my life. But before I got with her I found it very very difficult to get a gf (she is my first gf and I am her 3 rd bf). I am scared that if i let her go to n get more 'experienced' il never find another girl like her again. I am not sure what to do my head is in a mess because a part of me wants to stay n part me doesnt because of that feeling i get inside me. Its actually effecting me mentally my self esteem is really low I feel like crap!. Someone help me please!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): And I don't know why the thing posted twice (?) See? Nobody is perfect....Everybody screws up...(lol)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): Ok, first, calm down, bloke,..right? Take a few deep breaths. So, now let's examine your "problem". I don't really see any problem except those which you have invented in your own mind. So your girl had another boyfriend before you...so what? You said yourself you were a "late bloomer" when it came to dating the girls. Was she supposed to be sitting in her room watching telly and waiting for you? For five years? Grow up, bloke. If you want a virgin or a girl your age who has never had a boyfriend...good luck! Go check out some convents in the area. But the girls there would be very young. Probably not too interesting either for somebody your age. Who is your girl with now? You..right? She could be with anyone else, but she chooses to be with you. OK, so take that and run with it. And why do you think getting more "experienced" with other girls is going to improve your relationship with sig/other? Sorry, friend, but it just does not work that way. I know, you will hear that is what you should do...from friends and even old uncle George...Well, they are all (especially Uncle George)living in their own fantasy world. They would probably like to hear how it "worked out" after your date with any other girl. Are you beginning to get my drift? Don't be anybody's fantasy and don't doubt your girl. She would not give you the time of day if she didn't care. Get some self confidence. You are nobody's fool.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): Ok, first, calm down, bloke,..right? Take a few deep breaths. So, now let's examine your "problem". I don't really see any problem except those which you have invented in your own mind. So your girl had another boyfriend before you...so what? You said yourself you were a "late bloomer" when it came to dating the girls. Was she supposed to be sitting in her room watching telly and waiting for you? For five years? Grow up, bloke. If you want a virgin or a girl your age who has never had a boyfriend...good luck! Go check out some convents in the area. But the girls there would be very young. Probably not too interesting either for somebody your age. Who is your girl with now? You..right? She could be with anyone else, but she chooses to be with you. OK, so take that and run with it. And why do you think getting more "experienced" with other girls is going to improve your relationship with sig/other? Sorry, friend, but it just does not work that way. I know, you will hear that is what you should do...from friends and even old uncle George...Well, they are all (especially Uncle George)living in their own fantasy world. They would probably like to hear how it "worked out" after your date with any other girl. Are you beginning to get my drift? Don't be anybody's fantasy and don't doubt your girl. She would not give you the time of day if she didn't care. Get some self confidence. You are nobody's fool.
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