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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi am married for 5yrs we have 3yrs old girl but my husband has recently started to call his ex girl asked him, told me that am jelours and what to watch over each person he is talking to and dont what him to have friends , i asked him if still love me he said he does but i dont believe him, he said he will stop call her but he is doing it secretly. Am stressed dont know what to do next
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): Tell him you have more important things to do in life, and it doesnt involve sniffing around after him making sure that he is behaving like a proper man should be. Word to the wise, since this issue has already been brought out into the open, and he is now hiding it, get ready for a very intense tug of war. At this point I would drop your side of the rope. Because if you make this any more of an issue, you both will be locked in an endless power struggle. Just quietly give him the ultimatum (minus the theatrics) that he needs to stop all communication with her as it isnt fair, and furthermore, it is rather childish since the two (actually 3 counting baby) are already in a relationship together, it means you are both taken and exclusive. Tell him this once and only once. Tell yourself how long you are willing to put up with it, and if there is no change, be prepared to follow through and leave him if you have to. Because surely the secretive phone calls will lead to secretive meetings will lead to...well you get the picture.
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reader, lakers_lover09  +, writes (21 March 2011):
red flags, i read an article that says 50 percent of men pine over an ex. He misses something about her. i miss all of my exes but once i start a family and have a wife my life with them is unrecoverable. talk to him and tell him you need to know if he is happy with you. communication in a relationship is key. i would hope he is just dealing with a sense of bordem from being married for so long and can fix this. good luck
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